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Speaking of China...

I've finally got the chance to go through
many of my china pictures
[sorting for my favorites]
and
I found this photo of a sign
on a night club

which amused me
so I thought'd I share

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According to figures posted in the China Daily newspaper

every two minutes
[or roughly the time it will take me to post this]

12 chinese people attempt suicide
one is successfully

sure some of that is a function of population

but

Suicide is the leading cause of death between those 20-35

thats just fucked up

BBC Article here
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lucky for you
I can be accommodating when the whim strikes me

so, as requested

Camwhoring with Style aka the Suit part 2 )
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"The weirder you're going to behave,
the more normal you should look.

It works in reverse, too.

When I see a kid with green hair
and three or four rings in his nose,
I know there is absolutely nothing extraordinary about that person."

- P. J. O'Rourke
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so whats the big deal?

well to be honest
it isnt really all that big of a deal

I had been looking forward to getting it for weeks
and
after all the headache with UPS
waiting all this week
and
sitting with my thumb up my butt all day
not to mention the rest of the phone calls
and another shit

I just wanted my damn package

so

I bet you're wondering

whats in it

thats got your plural so excited?


I'll show you )
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[rant]

Fuckups by fuckups

whats the world coming to...

This horrific tale of human incompetence

begins with the simple act of shipping a package

the shipper went to a local UPS store in Seattle
on

Thursday, July 14th, 2005

where they called me to confirm my personal information
and determine how quickly I needed the package shipped

I spoke to the UPS employee there
and gave them the necessary information for shipping and clearing customs
and said I needed the package no later than

Monday, July 18th, 2005

he confirmed all the information
and about ten minutes later
I received and email from UPS

the email provided my tracking number
and gave an expected delivery date of

Monday, July 18th, 2005

so everything looks kosher
and I relax

unknown to me this incompetent meatbag
turned around and instead of shipping it by air
tossed in on a truck to be shipped by ground

so monday comes and goes
and no package

so I go to the website
enter in my tracking number
and where might my package be?

fucking Illinois

I call UPS
where I am informed of said fuckup by said fuckup
and am told the package is scheduled to arrive

Friday, July 22nd, 2005 before noon

I balk at this, saying it simply isnt acceptable
get transferred to a supervisor
still get nowhere
they take my number and promise to have their supervisor call me back

when that supervisor called me
I started running options by them

can we yank the package out
and reship it via air

no

can we change the destination
and deliver it to my friend in chicago
who can then reship it to me

no

can my friend in chicago drive out to pick it up
and then reship it to me

no

what can we do?

nothing, it will arrive friday before noon

*sigh*

not much I can do right
so
fuck it, I curse and let it go
sometimes life just goes its own way

so I pace and pace
all freaking week
waiting for friday to come
so I can get my package

today, you might be aware
is that specific friday

and about four pm
I start getting nervous
so I call UPS
apparently UPS doesnt deliver out here
they contract another service

I manage to get their number
and contact them

now UPS has already told me
that the package went out on a truck at 9:32 this morning
and I've been sitting at home
all damn day waiting for it

but no fucking package

they assure me it will be delivered

no later than 7pm

you got to be fucking kidding me
I barely refrain from screaming
instead thanking the woman on the phone politely
for her fairly considerable effort on my behalf

and return to the wait

six, then six thirty, then seven come and go

I call back

guess what, the local office isnt answering their phone

I call the company headquarters
they assure me that the warehouse is open till nine pm

so I get the address
look it up online
drive out there

where I am greeted by a security guard
with the phrase

"So, you're the cleaning fellow ay?"

no, I calmly reply, I am not the cleaning fellow

I am here to pick up a package

he says well, the office is closed and everyone went home
[early I might add]

I smile the best smile I could manage, given my level of frustration
refrain from ripping off his head and shitting down his neck
simply because the poor bastard is the only person within arms reach

I manage to convince him this is of some import
so he calls the manager on his cellphone
talks to him for a minute and hands the phone to me

The managers first response and tone
is that of being obviously unpleased
to have his weekend interrupted
and basically tells me to fuck of in manager-ese

after several varied attempts to explain the situation
he finally grasps that this is his company's fuckup
and maybe just maybe he should take some initiative to fix it

so he promises to call me back
and in about ten minutes does so
tells me that my package
was giving to a service they contract to do deliveries
but he doesnt have their phone number
and one of his employees is on the way to the office
to help try to track them down

I am told to expect him in about thirty minutes

Smiling that genteel smile I was bred to perfect
as a mask to hide any emotion behind
I thanked him for his efforts

The employee which came in
I'll give some credit to because
he was there in ten minutes not thirty
and had his shit pretty well wired

he walked me through their warehouse
to double check that the package had not been returned
then started calling people at this other delivery service
to find out where it was

we find out which truck it is on
but the guy at the company doesnt have a number
for the driver of the truck
but promises to call around to see what he can do and call us back

sure enough, about ten minutes later he calls back
to inform us that

The driver, we'll call him "Billie" cause thats the meatbag's name
and I'm not exactly feeling kind enough to disguise his identity
could not manage the simple fucking task of driving places and delivering parcels
and was not able to deliver all of the packages he was given today

did he take responsibility for his inefficiency
and keep working till the job was done?

what? miss beer thirty? I dont think so

instead he went back to his parents house
where he lives, I envision, in some dank basement room
cluttered with low quality porn from the seventies
and littered with slightly used tissues

unloads the parcels he was unable to deliver
into a locked storage room
and goes out to parts unknown
to go drinking with his buddies

oh and the packages?
well he can return them to the warehouse on monday

what you were expecting it today? sorry

The manager of the warehouse I am at calls back
takes my cell number and promises to call me as soon as they locate him
and that he will make arrangements to get my package to me
at that time

what can I do? I thank him for his effort
smile with genuine kindness to the poor sap
who had to drive back to work on a friday evening
to make the attempt to fix a problem created
because old billie there, couldnt be bothered to do his job
and thank him for his efforts

get in my car and drive home

so

it is now 10:22pm

and I bet you can guess it

yup

no fucking package

so much for before noon

*sigh*

The next UPS man I see is going to get a serious kick in the balls
I know it is probably not his fault, but someone needs an ass whipping
I cant tell all those brown clad fuckers apart
and anyway, I'm sure he has fucked up someone else package
so even if I dont know what he personally did to deserve it

he will

*grumble*

*grumble*

*grumble*

*deep breathe*

ok

[/rant]

I'm gonna go relax, have a smoke and cuddle with my kitties
and tattoo "Always ship Fed-Ex" on the inside of my thigh


10:55pm Edit:
I just received a phone call from Billies boss
the owner of the company
he was calling from outside my house
with my package

it is in my hands now
and I'm feeling much better

although I'm a little peeved at mother
because I gave her specific instructions
to insure it for 1200$
where she listed the value as 5$
and shipped it without insurance entirely

but upon inspection
everything is as it should be
so I suppose I'll let that one slide

what a freaking ordeal
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Five years I've been using this journal
to record things from my innermost troubles and thoughts
to my most shallow observation and whimsy

this beats my previous journal record by 4 years and 51 weeks
I suppose that says something
[looking back on the what of course]
[makes me almost afraid to ask what that might be *grin*]

of course, I'd say that yall have a lot to do with it

over these past five years
so many friends and lovers have come and gone
[both here and in "real life"]
some drifted away, other left intentionally [or were asked to do so]
some passed away
and a few switched from one role to another

never completely replaced
by each new crop of friends and lovers
which rise up to fill the void

and somehow, even though the unique charactaristics of those we adore
never lets them be complete replaced
these new friends and new loves, each with their own follys, foibles and glories
manage to find a way to make that void seem a little less empty

some of you I've known here for nearly five years, others for less than a week
some I've met many times, others only once, most not at all

but tonight

each and every one of you is welcome to join me
for a glass of wine and a moments reflection, appreciation even
for all those people in our lives, whose love and affection
make the joy bearable and the suffering most amusing

with affection

your plural

bah

Jul. 19th, 2005 03:12 pm
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does anyone have a copy of the clip from the mtv award show that had gollum in it?

could have sworn I saved it but cant find it for the life of me and I wanted to show it to my father.

if ya have it, please let me know.

Thanks

P
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Fucking Barbarians

*sigh*

you know what sticks in my craw
I can accept, even if I find it disgusting
the theorhetical notion that some ignant fucking peasant
will do some stupid brutal shit like that

but this, makes me wanna just nuke the fucking country

Jordanian MPs have opposed stricter penalties for "honour killings."

Under existing laws, people found guilty of murdering female relatives
on the alleged grounds of guarding familial honour
can be released from jail after only six months.

In September last year, Jordanian lawmakers rejected plans to make the punishments more severe.

[emphasis mine]
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what a crappy week
well that's not completely true
just an exhausting one

I made absolutely no progress
on my superdupertopsecret lil project
which sucks
but I'm hoping this coming week will be better

my father spent most of this week
in the hospital
which meant besides driving an hour and a half
[each way, each day]
to visit and tend to him
I got to field calls from everyone in my family
about how he was doing
and a few other subjects

luckily he is fine now
and was released last night

he had a high (103.5) fever
for a few days
and apparently his white blood cell count was low
so they wanted to keep him for observation, tests, etc

in other better but at the same time odd news
my suit arrived in the us on friday
however it was shipped to seattle
instead of DC
which would be nothing meriting a mention
cept I can't for the life of me recall how my tailor got my accountants address
I thought maybe it was the billing address for my credit card
but the card I used for it
uses this house up here as the billing address
so I'm stumped

anyway its good to know it has arrived
now I just gotta decide if I want it ship here or to DC
I suppose it will depend on whether I feel like
waiting until august to wear it
of course
the shoes I got to wear with it
are in DC
so there'd make the most sense
but
I'm not entire sure
making sense is entirely what I'm in the mood for.

*yawn*

I think I'm going to go sleep for a day or so
then get really drunk

it wont help much
but
I dont mind

*wicked grin*

oh yeah

happy fourth all you yankee bastards
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and sometimes the bull gets you

*grin*

I've been a bit insane lately
my sister graduated from highschool on saturday
so most of the past week
has been consumed with family things
and
my older brother is engaged to be married
[for the second time]
I met the intended briefly
but received a positive impression

lately my life's been seeming a bit
out of control
not in a bad way
more like opportunities keep popping up
and either I grab them or they pass me by

I'm grabbing as quickly as I can
but the pace is a bit unsettling

usually I've always been the sort
to make my own opportunities
carefully laying out my schemes
so that life will bend to my will

these past few weeks
the pace has been increased

seems more like holding on for the ride
than wresting control of things

but when I step back and look at it
I can see what choices have led me here
and while I'd never consider it
that I always had the choice to bow out

I suppose I'm just not the sort of guy to fail a gut check
which
more than anything
my thoughts of late have been

chin down
keep it moving

anyway

much is in the works
which I'm hoping to be able to share with yall
here soon

and maybe just maybe
I'll get a moment this week
to try to catch up on your journals

and I'd appreciate it if you woud
drop me a note if there is anything important
which I've missed

love love

p
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Arrived at my hotel in Hong Kong
[The Marco Polo]
fairly later than I had expected
as my flight was delayed
but the car which the hotel provided
to whisk me from the airport
was amply posh to allow the unwinding
of any residual tensions resulting from
the frenetic environment of air travel

so I arrive refresh, if a bit tired
checked in at the hotel
to discover that in an oversight on my part
I had neglected to instruct my travel agent to
secure a room for my sister in addition to my mine
[bad me]
but an oversight the clerk was most able to correct

In the process of checking in
I had discarded the clerks use of the word suite
as being a failure of his english
as the room rate was as expected
and I had reserved a normal room
although I was slightly suspicious something was up
when I was instructed to obtain my key on the 17th floor
[when I had observed the people before me]
[receive their key directly]
but in my life I've learned to discern
between times when one must
go with the flow
versus
rocking the boat

this seemed to me one of the former
so after signing an extra form stating that
I was responsible for any charges incurred by my sister
[and duly warning her that she'd better let me know]
[before incurring any charges which we had not discussed]
we headed up to the 17th floor

the 17th and 18th floor share the same elevator stop
and constitute "The Continental Club"
which in sharp contrast to the modern hotel design
of the rest of the hotel
were wood paneled in a manner reminiscent
of a proper british establishment.

I received my key
and upon opening the door
realized that the clerk had not misspoken
my suite was subtly luxurious
with lustrous wood paneling
and a marble bath
[complete with rubber duckie - the finest sign of luxury]
while not a large suite
it was quite more than I expected
but considering the room rate was as I expected
I shrugged and drew myself a bath
for a quick soak before dinner
leaving the mystery to others

I dressed and met with my sister
we went to a small english styled pub
called "The Friar Tuck"
which had quite tasty food
and to my relief
most satisfactory bourbon

afterward we returned to the hotel
and I checked my email
to find an email from a family friend
informing me that his niece was arriving in HK
[a nice jewish girl from Montreal]
[majoring in business at McGill]
for an overnight layover
and wondering if he could impose on my noted hospitality
to take her to dinner and show her some of the town

I must confess to being a bit suspicious
while I believe entirely in coincidences
this seems a bit much
but regardless, I could not refuse a friend

so, I will pick her up at seven
take her to dinner at one of the floating restaurants
which are so famed for their view of the city harbor
and afterward to Temple Street
which houses an evening market filled with many
shops and persons of interest.

I intend to remain entirely the gentleman
[as always *grin*]
and call it a fairly early night
as I have to be at the tailors fairly early in the morning

of course
that required fresh clothes
of a high caliber than the casual attire
I had selected for myself
for a day wandering around HK and flying home
so I had to rely upon the hotels express laundry service
which while absolutely exemplary in every way
and quite swift returning my clothes in less than two hours
was also quite steep
costing about a hundred dollars
for laundering two complete changes of clothes.

well I'd better head off now
for the preliminary fittings at my tailor
so that I can be done in ample time
to ready myself for dinner

my fondest affection to you all
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well

I've finally managed to carve out some time
while I am uploading photos
to write a more lengthy update.

let me begin by saying
how utterly amazing Xi'an is

a vibrant city of roughly 7 million people
which seems poised for explosive development and growth
I walk down the street and see endless opportunity

The people here have been incredibly welcoming
and while I've had to adjust in many ways
my natural grace for such things
has only been augmented by the kind and unassuming way
in which they instruct me

I have been remarkably impressed by the students
which I have had in my classes
their grasp of english is superb
in fact I have come to believe that their
primary lack is one of confidence rather than ability

The students break into enthusiastic applause
when I enter the room, beaming with smiles
for many of them it is the first chance they have had to speak to a foreigner
and combining that with the promise of an easy and fun class
compared to what I've noticed is a quite vigorous program of study
I was a welcome sight

I spoke with them on a variety of subjects
asking them questions about their lives
and although I realize I probably shouldnt have been
I was still surprised by how similar they were to american teenagers
when I asked them what they liked to do for fun
among the answers were:
play basketball
go shopping
play computer games/surf the net
read
draw
talk with friends

Singing and performing is a common way of extending friendship
so I was on many occasions sung to or asked to sing by my students
I was asked if I liked to dance
and when I said I did
they insisted (by applause) that I dance for them
so I shift gears and held an impromptu swing lesson
for about ten minutes teaching them the basics

word got around and this soon became a fixture of my classes
between answering questions about my opinion of the one China policy
or the war on Iraq.

the food here is delicious and varied
so far my favorite are a type of dumpling
eating them is nearly a game in itself
it reminds me of the ritual process of doing tequila shooters in the states

inside the dumplings is a small chunk of meat
and about a teaspoon of broth

when you sit down you get a bowl
while I am not entirely sure what is in it
I am fairly confident that it is a mixture of soy sauce and vinegar
to which you add chili paste to taste
for a nice spicy kick

you use both a chinese style spoon
and chopsticks to eat them
first you pick up the dumpling
and place it on your spoon
then you poke a hole in it
and carefully lift it to drain the broth onto your spoon
then you dip it in the bowl with the soy/vinegar/chili mixture
and pop it in your mouth
sipping the broth while you chew

entirely delicious and quite fun to eat

I spent much of the weekend
hanging out with a friend of mine who is from Xi'an
but currently goes to university in Canada
his father, who recently retired from his position
as the chief of police
provided an official car
which was a nice touch

the clubs or discos as the call them
are in many ways similar to the states
except that you purchase liquor by the bottle
[if you do not finish the bottle]
[they will store it for you for a future visit]
[or you can take it home with you]
and beer is sold by the half or full dozen

while by american standards it is cheap
by local standards it is fairly expensive
which serves to keep the youngins out of the bars
[they cant afford it]
as they have no set drinking age in china.

anyways we started out friday night
having dinner at a muslim restaurant
which was fabulous
then being overly stuffed
decided to take a stroll
and while strolling
encountered a massage parlor
[not the sort you are thinking of - perverts]

we went in for a foot massage
and for a cost of about 14$
ended up getting a delightful foot massage
followed by a full body massage
[completely within the limits of propriety of course]
which was fantastic

the massage itself seemed a blend of
chiropratic manipulation, shiatsu and wresting

a bit odd but quite enjoyable
and an hour and a half of massage
for 14 bucks doesnt suck either
*grin*

then we went out and met up with two of his cousins
who then became part of our usual entourage
part for company and part as tour guides
as much had changed in the few years since he lived in Xi'an full time

then we went out to a disco
where I learned the chinese way of counting to ten
on the fingers of one hand
and a number of nifty chinese drinking games
which were quite useful in helping me complete the bottle of bourbon which I purchased

I also took the opportunity to dance
and took advantage of my semi-celebrity status
to dance with a number of lovelies
and hold informal swing dance classes
receiving a few rounds of vigorous applause
for my efforts
before returning to my drinking

for the record, if there happens to be
a swing dance craze in china in the near future
I am officially staking out my claim
and credit as its originator

after a most enjoyable night of
drinking, dancing and conversation
it was time to head home
my friends cousin
a young woman of about 24 who had recently graduated law school
leaned over to inquire if I would like to go home
or if perhaps I would like to get a woman first

I was initially a bit lost by her comment
the blame for which I will place
squarely on the significant amount of bourbon
sloshing around in my belly
but after a moment it dawned on me

she was inquiring if I would like to finish off this delightful evening
with a professional girl to quite literally consummate the evening
I politely demured explaining that I had to get up early in the morning
to work on some documents which I was translating for my host organization
[translating is probably the wrong word]
[more like polishing rewriting the draft translations]
[to improve the grammar and flow of the works]

what struck me about the entire thing
and granted this realization did not occur until the morning
when my head and stomach were significantly clearer
was the matter of fact, normalcy with which she inquired
as if it was normal and expected that after a night of partying
I would want a lil lass to attend my whims

I suppose if my friend had suggested it
I would have been less surprised
but it was clear that not only was this socially acceptable
but nearly expected of her as my host
to offer to assist me in locating such a service

quite a difference from the social stigma
which is attached to prostitution in most countries I have visited
although I have no plans to take advantage of
this particular cultural difference.

saturday morning I awoke
ok I lied
saturday afternoon I awoke
and began working on the translations
finishing them in about five hours
and
did a most marvelous job if I may say so myself

the documents were english translations of the remarks
made by a team of scientists who are working to save the
"Crested Ibis" which is considered a Chinese national treasure
and is on the Endangered Species list.

Reading their stories as I worked
I was amazed and felt quite fortunate to have the opportunity
to assist with such an amazing project

started twenty years ago
they have slowly nursed these birds
from a population of seven birds
to around 400, with 56 new fledglings born this year

the translations I worked on
will be placed side by side the original chinese text
in a photography exhibit to showcase their successes
and to draw public attention and support to help futher their efforts
and will be published in an accompanying coffee table book
which is pretty exciting
as I've never had my work published on such a broad scale before

I've requested a copy of the book
even though I think it is unlikely I will be credited for the work
personally I could care less about the credit
I just think it will be neat to see my words
professionally published and alongside
such amazing photographs
[even if I have only seen a few of them]

today we visited the "Terra Cotta Warriors"
which was pretty spiffy
I met a young woman and her husband
who were from DC and we started chatting
[well her and I chatted]
[her husband seemed a bit shy]

apparently they were both IT consultants
decided they had been slaving away
working too many hours
and didnt really need to

so they quit their jobs
and have spent the last six months
traveling around asia

hmm

that story sounds kind of familiar doesnt it...

on the way back to the van
we were beset upon by people
selling small replicas of the the terra cotta warriors
initially for 120 yuan (roughly 15 dollars)
[the exchange rate is 8 to 1]
with bargaining many of the members of the group
got the price down to 50 yuan
with one particularly savvy guy getting it down to 30

I wasnt intended to purchase a set
and instead merely ignored the vendors
as we neared the street
on lady continued to follow me
lowering and lowering the price
despite my shaking my head
that I was not interested

two dozen feet from the street
she said "5 yuan"
at which point I shrugged
and figured why not
for seventy cents I could find a use for them

pulled out a five and paid the lady
much to the admiration of my companions
who then asked me how I managed to bargain her down so
[they had been busy with their own pestering vendors]
[and did not notice the absence of effort on my part]

now, I'm normally no slouch when it comes to bargaining
having earned my bones in the arab shook of the old city in Jerusalem
but in the particular case I wasnt bargaining in the least
so I just smiled that trademarked smile
and gave a playful shrug

I returned to my hotel a few hours ago
rested a bit before dinner
and then collected my photos for uploading
while I've only roughly sorted them
and many of them require reorientation
you can if you desire browse through them here

I will of course be posting specific shots
in my journal as I get a chance to do so
I'm thinking either late tomorrow or tuesday afternoon
will likely be the next chance I get.

and while I am sure there is much I am leaving out
I'm beat and going to head to bed
for a much needed nights rest.

my love to you all
and
I hope all is well with you

your king

China

May. 19th, 2005 02:17 pm
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They have been keeping me very busy
and I have not had nearly the opportunity to update that I would like
much of the reason is due to the limited hours of the hotel business center
which is most inconvenient for me.

So far my time in China has been a mind blowing experience
even if I have seriously slacked with regards to updating
but I will endeavor to be better in the future.

I am thinking it may be easier to compose a more lengthy entry offline
and merely post it when I can steal a few minutes.

while I (again) do not have nearly enough time to
get into much of the details of my experience here
I thought I would at least share with you
some of the photos which I have taken so far.
[with the caveat that I am only able to share]
[the lower quality versions until I return home]

edit: doh, I broke the links reorganizing the files,
and I have to go now but I will fix them as soon as I can
[my bad, sorry]

china photos part 1 )
plural: (king)
do not have much time
as we are about to go out after dinner

but I promise a longer update tomorrow
perhaps even some photos

china is absolutely amazing
in so many ways
some of which I will share tomorrow
[dont you love teasers like that]

anyway

the main reason for this post
is to share some love

specifically in postcard form

if any of you
would like postcards from china

leave a comment with a mailing address
and I will send them out tomorrow
with a personal message written either in chinese
or my abysmal handwriting
it will be up to you to determine which
*grin*

I have, of course, set the default
to screen all comments
for your privacy

hope you are well

love love

your king
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I like to think of myself as a halfway decent son
but I must confess
I am horrible at remembering things like mothers day
[or fathers day, or most of such days]

Birthdays, Anniversaries
those I am good at
I think because they relate to an individual

personally, I dislike those other days
actually I dislike birthdays too
but they at least make more sense to me

for the most part
I have no clue when such days are scheduled
or if I do, like valentines day
they can easily come and go with my realizing it
because I for the most part function on numbered days
and pay little attention the calendar

but luckily
I have the website that ships flowers
and they bug me with emails for all their "important" sales dates
so today
I took a moment and sent my mother
a bouquet of lillies for mothers day

feel pretty good about it too
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I like movies

quite a bit

this leads me to compulsively buy dvds

and I'm starting to get a pretty darn respectable collection
enough that a while back I got some neat software to manage it all
not that I keep it remotely updated as I should
but still its neat stuff

It lets me search by nearly any field I could desire
and even runs little reports that for example
tell me that my collection has 101 drama flicks
or that Warner Bros, is by far the dominant studio
pretty much it does everything my little heart could desire

recently [as in the past couple of months] I've acquired the following flicks:

2 days in the valley
Along Came a Spider
American Pie 2 (sucked but I have the other two)
Bandits
Bend it like Beckham
The Breakfast Club
Bringing Down the House
The Brothers McMullen
Bull Durham
Catch Me if You Can
The Cooler
Desperado
Double Jeopardy
Ferris Buellers Day Off
A Fish called Wanda
Grosse Pointe Blank
Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban
Heist
Insomnia
Italian Job
Kate & Leopald
Knockaround Guys
The Last of the Mohicans
The Last Samurai
Leap of Faith
Matchstick Men
Mystic River
Paycheck
Reservoir Dogs
Planet of the Apes (remake)
Red Dragon
Red Rock West
Roman Holiday
Run Lola Run
Say Anything
Serendipity
Serpico
Singles
The Stepford Wives (original)
The Story of Us
The Time Machines (remake)
The Weight of Water
We were Soldiers
What Women Want
What's Eating Gilbert Grape
Wing Commander
Witness

a few of these were repurchases as my prior copys had magically disappeared along with my copies of:

Big Daddy
Chasing Amy
Murder at 1600
Suicide Kings

you know I think nasty sticky fingered hobbits
wouldnt be nearly as a bad if they had universally bad taste

Big Daddy and Murder at 1600 for example
not great movies but I enjoyed them

but Suicide Kings and Chasing Amy
I am pissed about

fucking bastiches

anyway

you can see the entirity of my dvd collection

Here
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There are two things I require most from my friends, particularly in real life, although it applies to you folks here as well.

The first is discretion, I expect that what I share with you, stays with you, period.
[yes there are certain exceptions and you know who you are]

The second is far more important

Perspective.

If you are as fortunate to be considered my friend, do not hold back your thoughts. To me, one of the main benefits of friends is to have someone to tell you what others wont. Our friendship will never be harmed by your sharing your thoughts. Even if I vehemently disagree with what you say, I will only respect you further for giving me the straight juice from your perspective, because that takes balls, and because you have nothing to gain from it (directly) so to me it shows that you care enough to do something difficult because you are my friend.

That doesnt mean I will agree with it, but only that I will listen and not become upset with you no matter what it is.

More than likely, I will say something along the lines of:

"Thank you for sharing your perspective, if you do not mind, I would like some time to absorb what you have said before responding."

In return for your openness, I promise to really listen to what you have to say and give it due consideration.
[again I do not promise to agree or even alter my behavior as a result, although many have been surprised when I do]

For those of you here specifically.

If you ever feel like you need to say something, but are not sure of how it will be responded to, I hope I have answered that question.

If you feel it is particularly delicate, put it in a post secured to me only and drop me a link in a comment to make sure I dont miss it.

Also, on a related note, I've heard from many people that they often times do not know what to say to a particular post of mine, usually these are emotional or introspective posts, in such cases, I do not expect you to have an answer or a solution, so feel free to just share whatever thoughts were provoked by the post, or if you just want to let me know you read it, post a lil ":)".

While I dont dwell on it, it can be a little frustrating to spend five hours pouring my heart out into a post, and have it receive little to no response, while a meme or other trivial post receives 20 comments. Sometimes it would just be nice to know if it was being read.

Just a nickel, spend it however you like

edit:a clarification, yall can lurk all ya like, do not feel you have to respond to every or any post, the point of this post was more that if you feel the need to say something, do not refrain because you worry it will offend or upset me."
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I am so convinced of the advantages of looking at mankind instead of reading about them, and of the bitter effects of staying at home with all the narrow prejudices of an Islander, that I think there should be a law amongst us to set our young men abroad for a term among the few allies our wars have left us.

-Lord Byron
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