a question for the ladies (of course the guys are free to weigh in as well)

[plural]

Ok lets start with a basic assumption
and I think anyone who challenges it
is probably in denial, but that's my opinion

any single guy has porn
(and most attached ones as well)
and it isn't only classy art nudes

I also want to state that there is a distinct difference
in the guy who has some porn
to help get through a lonely moment
when he is without a woman or his
woman in unavailable

I want to focus on these guys, I am not talking about guys
who ignore their girlfriends to download porn
or display obviously obsessive issues.

I was having a discussion with a female friend of mine
who was concerned that her boyfriend had
too much porn on his computer

we talked about differing types
ranging from playboy style porn
to 25m - 1f gang bang porn

my questions to the ladies are these

what do you consider to be an acceptable
or "normal" amount of porn?

and what sort of porn excluding the obvious
child/animal/etc
would you say is too explicit and would
freak you out (if any would)?

Comments

[kansaschica.livejournal.com]

Personally, as long as it's not guys (I mean there'd be a serious breach of trust, if after almost 7 years he's suddenly not as hetero as he'd claimed), or the head of my sister or any ex gfs superimposed onto porn, I could care less. Nah, that's not true, I wish he'd look at porn more!

Hehee, I'm the horndog, and I know he hornballs at times, but is still, after all these years, too shy to show me what he looks at. Damn, the thought of him even looking at it is making me hornball a bit... more than a bit... you've got your answers, time to stop talking bout this!

eek!

Interesting :/

[zaiah.livejournal.com]

There was a time in my life, when working at the rape and domestic violence shelter - that I disdained all pornography and any who used it - except for that considered art. I guess I saw too much damage.. perverts taking pictures of their rape victims and the like, girl-children into prostitution and used as "models" because they desperately needed some way to survive on the street... Moving away from that and finding balance in my life, away from the militant feminist who preach all heterosexual sex is unequal and therefore rape, and enjoying again my love of men.. I can find almost nothing wrong with most pornography and the gentle type use of it you suggest. I hate that there is an industry where some balding white male, of dubious ethics and legitimate (aye - fascist, I am, once again)right to breath other people's oxygen is in some corporation somewhere getting rich off images of women who are too devoid of self worth (emotional, monetary) that they need to sell images of their body for someone else to make a judgement on their worth by ONLY their air-touched image.. But any woman who, proud of her body, wishes to sell it or images of it.. doesn't bother me.. as long as SHE reaps the rewards of it. Me? I find I enjoy the campy availabilty of pornography on the 'net.. The self publishing. I enjoy most the images which, while physically revealing, *hint* at the next action.. not the explicit sex itself. I hate the locker room bawdiness were teens or teen-minded men band together and discuss liking to have that piece or not.. and the way that degrades the woman's value into mere meat.

Hrmm. Please do bear with me in that I am an "oral thinker" and do not truly have the whole opinion finsihed until after I try to say it.

[astroasis.livejournal.com]

Personally, I love porn. I'm a total hornball like gardengnome *L* I'm always encouraging guys to actually be more open and enjoy more of what's out there. Obviously, there would be a problem if he started digging the porn more than me, but I think porn should be something that's shared and enjoyed by both parties.

Besides, I have a bigger porn collection than most of the men I know ;) *L*

porn is good... m'kay

[debgirl001.livejournal.com]

gang bang shit i think is too much...

but, at my old place, i had this "box o fun".. actually, it was this hug plastic bin filled with porn mags porn tapes and other "toys".... my girl friends and i would rent porn at least once a week.

it's good shit. i don't care if the guy watches porn.. just as long as i'm there, that it's with me.

[azulskies.livejournal.com]

wow, have to agree with the consensus.......porn is good. i'm sure it can be excessive, but i don't think any woman would stay with a guy who would choose porn over her. i think it's good for both parties. anything involving young girls is, of course, too much. other than that, people are turned on by different things and they should be allowed to explore that. i think it's a mutual thing.

[princessashi.livejournal.com]

mags/internet porn = ok to laugh at

videos = ok to watch together, mostly to speed things up a bit when either a) im tired or b) he has to be at work soon.

he hates watching videos with me though. somehow by himself its nasty (in a good way) but with me its goofy and uncomfortable.

[shishie.livejournal.com]

I'd have to say hernia porn....

oh hush

[plural.livejournal.com]

Supa told me some of the nasty things you did with his hernia wound

bring a whole new light to the phrase
making money on the side

*grin*

[puissance.livejournal.com]

porn is as american as apple pie.

if the male in question was
"neglecting"
his female because of his obsession
with porn,
then i suppose it'd
be an issue.

other than the obvious
mentioned above,
i have no problem with it.

[lakme.livejournal.com]

Hi. I'm getting addicted to reading your journal.

I don't think *amount* matters. If I see porn stashed about, I want to know about content. If he's got sticky marks on the pages of big breasted blonds, and I'm a modest brunette, I'm going to be slighted.

I'm fairly open minded, so I doubt any particular scenes outside of the extreme ones would bother me. What I hated with my boyfriend was when I'd find a magazine he had just bought and he hadn't shared it with me. I don't care if you have it, but don't stash it away-that will hurt more. It's like he's saying he'd prefer that but wouldn't want to hurt my feelings.

In general, porn is not a problem. But men shouldn't be secretive with it, either.

[rosiepj.livejournal.com]

There is no such this as "too much" porn. Quantity is not what's important. In my collection at least the fact is that I have alot for VARIETY. Something for each of my tastes. Porn is how you use it. that's what makes it good or bad. I must disagree with a previous comment about the people in porn. If you ain't been there, don't open your mouth. Have an opinion but don't judge the people, yes they are, in the images. There are lots of reasons and not all of them are because the person(s) are somehow weak-minded or taken for a ride. NOr are they all noble freedom issues. Damn, I could write a book. But that's all for now.

[lianna.livejournal.com]

a couple of boxes is ok, a coupla closets full and i'd head for the door.
what's too much? violent ones that show sliced off nipples and balls being slashed, etc. and severe S & M. at least for me.

also, if my man had a WHOLE lot of porn containing other men, i'd have a problem. i'd want him to find the man of his dreams and leave me pronto :)