Two minor annoyances

[plural]

One

people who get offended when I am not there when they IM me

look folks, I don't ignore anyone, if don't want to talk to people
I either block them or just don't sign into IM in the first place

however, I am often am logged in and away from my desk
usually my computer is running other things
which is probably why it shows me as being present
but guess what if I am not responding I am not there

if I don't want to talk or am too busy to talk I will tell you

I am sorry but putting on my away message every time I leave my desk
or returning to my computer to turn it on once I realized I am not going back right away
is just not high on my priority list

k

k

we understand each other?

fabulous

next time

number


Two

for some reason

guys up here are either very threatened by me
or think I am an easy target
or some combination of both

I have been in more altercations in the three months I have been here
that in the past few years

last night
I was talking to a girl
some guy walks up and is flipping some attitude

and this is not one of those his girlfriend situations
I think they might have known each other but definitely not like dating or even that friendly
she seemed to give off unhappy vibes when he showed up

I am like chill man, and go to introduce myself
he is acting like a total ass
so whatever

I turn back to my friends
to talk to them

and like five minutes later
he grabs me from behind
one arm over my shoulders around my neck

I did the take a deep breath
and give him the

I am going to count to three warning

at which point I would simply drop my center of gravity
lean forward and throw his ass into the SUV in front me

jujitsu is quite handy with drunk fucks

just as I opened my mouth
one of the guys I was talking to
beat me to the punch and told him to let go of me
he did
with a warning that if that guy hadn't said let go
I would have been fucked

I shrugged and when back to my conversation

everyone was wrapping up
getting into cabs

and again the guy comes up to me
tries to shove me

I slide out of the way
and with a gentle push
send him flying past me

at which point the bouncers
[friends of mine of course]
come out and tell him to get lost
which he does

I realize a lot of this can be the holidays
and other crap
but I am getting sick of it

I am not sure if I just need to give the next guy
the ass whipping of his life very publicly
so that word gets around
or
what

I don't know

I look at what I have done
and cant really find a reason in my actions

sure with the head butt, once I realized it was going down hill
and not recoverable
I decided the try a little intimidation instead

but in the three instances where shit has happened
I have been extremely polite and restrained
and can not put my finger on any action which would provoke such a response

I realize this is a small town and being a stranger marks me out some
but I have lived in other small towns without this much problems

I also realize being well dress and confident
may threaten some insecure fucks
but what am I supposed to dress like a slob
and run around with my tail between my legs?

or is it that they are drunk fucks and see my nice clothes
as meaning that I cant handle myself
so I would be an easy target to pick on?

well I feel sorry for the surprise those last bunch are going to get
I may dress with class now and carry myself like a gentleman
but I have years of punk ass behavior and street fights under my belt
I haven't always won the fights I have been in
but I bat over 500 and know how to take a punch

is it some combination of all of the above?

I don't know but if this continues
I am either going to be in a lot of fights
or not going out very much

either way its just drama I do not need

Comments

[plural.livejournal.com]

you are of course correct
and yes I suppose being genial in the face of hostility could be frustrating

but that is sort of after the problem has happened, I mean, I dont think anyone not trying to have a problem, would say that I was being condescending.

as for those who want a problem, fuck em, I am not going to dance around in ballet slippers to appease assholes, but at the same time I would rather avoid all the aggro altogether.

and lastly, I am not willing to play the threat game precisely because I am too good to play it with them, but again by that time, it already an aggravated situation.

I see your point and concurr with your observations, I just dont see how to avoid the aggravation without setting myself up for worse shit, because there is nothing worse you can do to a bully than let them think you are an easy target, it just encourages them

[budhaboy.livejournal.com]

I tend to just laugh at them... full bust-a-gut-and-doubled-over.

More likely than not, they just walk away.