Two minor annoyances

[plural]

One

people who get offended when I am not there when they IM me

look folks, I don't ignore anyone, if don't want to talk to people
I either block them or just don't sign into IM in the first place

however, I am often am logged in and away from my desk
usually my computer is running other things
which is probably why it shows me as being present
but guess what if I am not responding I am not there

if I don't want to talk or am too busy to talk I will tell you

I am sorry but putting on my away message every time I leave my desk
or returning to my computer to turn it on once I realized I am not going back right away
is just not high on my priority list

k

k

we understand each other?

fabulous

next time

number


Two

for some reason

guys up here are either very threatened by me
or think I am an easy target
or some combination of both

I have been in more altercations in the three months I have been here
that in the past few years

last night
I was talking to a girl
some guy walks up and is flipping some attitude

and this is not one of those his girlfriend situations
I think they might have known each other but definitely not like dating or even that friendly
she seemed to give off unhappy vibes when he showed up

I am like chill man, and go to introduce myself
he is acting like a total ass
so whatever

I turn back to my friends
to talk to them

and like five minutes later
he grabs me from behind
one arm over my shoulders around my neck

I did the take a deep breath
and give him the

I am going to count to three warning

at which point I would simply drop my center of gravity
lean forward and throw his ass into the SUV in front me

jujitsu is quite handy with drunk fucks

just as I opened my mouth
one of the guys I was talking to
beat me to the punch and told him to let go of me
he did
with a warning that if that guy hadn't said let go
I would have been fucked

I shrugged and when back to my conversation

everyone was wrapping up
getting into cabs

and again the guy comes up to me
tries to shove me

I slide out of the way
and with a gentle push
send him flying past me

at which point the bouncers
[friends of mine of course]
come out and tell him to get lost
which he does

I realize a lot of this can be the holidays
and other crap
but I am getting sick of it

I am not sure if I just need to give the next guy
the ass whipping of his life very publicly
so that word gets around
or
what

I don't know

I look at what I have done
and cant really find a reason in my actions

sure with the head butt, once I realized it was going down hill
and not recoverable
I decided the try a little intimidation instead

but in the three instances where shit has happened
I have been extremely polite and restrained
and can not put my finger on any action which would provoke such a response

I realize this is a small town and being a stranger marks me out some
but I have lived in other small towns without this much problems

I also realize being well dress and confident
may threaten some insecure fucks
but what am I supposed to dress like a slob
and run around with my tail between my legs?

or is it that they are drunk fucks and see my nice clothes
as meaning that I cant handle myself
so I would be an easy target to pick on?

well I feel sorry for the surprise those last bunch are going to get
I may dress with class now and carry myself like a gentleman
but I have years of punk ass behavior and street fights under my belt
I haven't always won the fights I have been in
but I bat over 500 and know how to take a punch

is it some combination of all of the above?

I don't know but if this continues
I am either going to be in a lot of fights
or not going out very much

either way its just drama I do not need

Comments

[ludimagist.livejournal.com]

What type of jujitsu do you study?

The psycology of the bully types you've been encountering lately is kind of perverse. There is often intelligent discussion of this sort of thing at www.warriorsmatrix.com, I recommend checking it out.

[plural.livejournal.com]

I actually never studied jujitsu formally

I have studied aikido since I was seven
and
a variety of other martial arts through
friends of mine who were skilled in them

and I must agree

it is rather perverse
I am just not sure how to nip it in the bud

I would rather not hurt anyone if I had my dithers but it seems lately like that is more and more necessary to obtain a little bit of peace

I do not like it

[damion.livejournal.com]

Those canadians are a violent breed, eh? :D

[plural.livejournal.com]

so it seems

so it seems

[zaiah.livejournal.com]

one solution: be in and be seen in significant committed relationship in these public situations - no competition, no threat?

[plural.livejournal.com]

eh

great idea

if only I could find a chick

worth such a relationship

of course

that has been my problem for several years now

[budhaboy.livejournal.com]

but in the three instances where shit has happened
I have been extremely polite and restrained
and can not put my finger on any action which would provoke such a response


errr... extremely polite and restrained, could be taken as condescending. The point of thier BS is to threaten you... you need to either show fear, or try to scare them back. That you do neither, confuses them, and they react with the baser of choices.

Just my two cents of course.

[plural.livejournal.com]

good point

though I dont think I have come off as condescending, except for the head butt incident, but then only intentionally

but I think the second part is probably dead on

although I have never really been one for intimidating people, atleast not intentionally, always preferred to be smiling and friendly up until the point my fist contacted their face, and often past that as well

[budhaboy.livejournal.com]

Condescention is defined by the observer, bub.

If you are not willing to 'play the threat' game, one could percieve that this is because you are 'too good to play it with them.'

[plural.livejournal.com]

you are of course correct
and yes I suppose being genial in the face of hostility could be frustrating

but that is sort of after the problem has happened, I mean, I dont think anyone not trying to have a problem, would say that I was being condescending.

as for those who want a problem, fuck em, I am not going to dance around in ballet slippers to appease assholes, but at the same time I would rather avoid all the aggro altogether.

and lastly, I am not willing to play the threat game precisely because I am too good to play it with them, but again by that time, it already an aggravated situation.

I see your point and concurr with your observations, I just dont see how to avoid the aggravation without setting myself up for worse shit, because there is nothing worse you can do to a bully than let them think you are an easy target, it just encourages them

[budhaboy.livejournal.com]

I tend to just laugh at them... full bust-a-gut-and-doubled-over.

More likely than not, they just walk away.

[nandan.livejournal.com]

Just guessing here...but you're probably more educated than they are, and they can smell it. You're poaching their gals, you're a fereigner, they've got nothing else to do. Unless you're willing to become the butt of their jokes, and I know you aren't, you're probably going to be in for some of this until or unless someone decides to adopt you into their tribe. Or... you might have to stop hanging out in bars with drunk fucks?

Man, it's all so Rebel Without a Cause.

By the way, where the heck was it that you learned neighborhood street fighting? Is the Israeli Orthadox community a lot tougher than I have always thought?

Good luck to you, and stay out of trouble tonight! ; )

[ex-hotlavamo352.livejournal.com]

dear sir,

it appears that you are referring to me in the first half of this entry

because it seems that i forgot sarcasm does not translate well in online conversation

so, sorry