From personal experience (and for what it's worth)... Being completely honest and candid up front is admirable. Too many of either gender will play games, so that weeks and months are wasted before the true person can be appreciated.
Unfortunately, since most people expect the games and dodging, it's hard for someone to accept that one is actually being honest and candid -- it sometimes looks like a game...one where the rules can't be quite figured out because it doesn't seem like the game that everyone else is playing.
I guess what I'm saying is this: Honesty and candidness can be admirable, but can also be misunderstood if that other someone thinks you're playing games like 99% of everyone else...sometimes it can backfire. I'm not saying that gamesmanship is necessary, but it may go better if you steer the topics you're honest about to something a little more passive for the first date or two -- you'll still be honest, but it gives the other person a chance to realize it.
Just a thought, MHO of course :) Good luck, you'll make someone an intense S.O. someday and turn your alias into something literal
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Date: 2000-12-20 05:26 pm (UTC)Unfortunately, since most people expect the games and dodging, it's hard for someone to accept that one is actually being honest and candid -- it sometimes looks like a game...one where the rules can't be quite figured out because it doesn't seem like the game that everyone else is playing.
I guess what I'm saying is this: Honesty and candidness can be admirable, but can also be misunderstood if that other someone thinks you're playing games like 99% of everyone else...sometimes it can backfire. I'm not saying that gamesmanship is necessary, but it may go better if you steer the topics you're honest about to something a little more passive for the first date or two -- you'll still be honest, but it gives the other person a chance to realize it.
Just a thought, MHO of course :) Good luck, you'll make someone an intense S.O. someday and turn your alias into something literal