For Attilla - This is how it's done

[plural]

I woke up this morning
ok
this afternoon

my first thoughts
were on the fairly intense dreams
which had enveloped me in my sleep

there were two which
remained fresh in my mind

one in which
I was building a new house
and getting married
to not one, or even two
but three lovely lasses
among my lj friends

I remember which ones in fact
but what fun would it be to share that

although I was amused
that the three in question
are women I've flirted with
but more in the realm of flirting for fun
than flirting with intent

now the peculiar thing
about this dream
is that I am a monogamous man
inherently [if also serially]
I've done the whole threesome and moresome
thing
but
it is generally more trouble than it is worth
and
I'd rather focus my intensity
on a single woman

an undivided focus
is a sexy thing

so even my dreams
rarely feature such a thing

however in this dream
it was pretty awesome
and I am not speaking sexually
although I have full confidence
in each of the women's abilities
in that department

it was in the area of life management
where the dream excelled
two of us worked high powered highly lucrative careers
[it is fuzzy but I'm pretty sure we owned the business]
one of us took care of the children and managed the household/help
and the last filled the role of personal assistant to the rest
to keep us all exceedingly well organized

everything hummed along quite smoothly
we all slept together in a massive shared bed
but also had individual bedrooms
for our personal possessions and privacy when desired

there was more than enough income
to afford all the toys we desired
[I recall a nice sixty foot sailboat specifically]
and plenty of people to share the responsibilities
so you always had someone to cover for you
and time to yourself if you so desired

...

the other dream
I'll keep to myself
as I think it has far more to do with my past
bleeding into my present
and dealt with skills
I'd prefer not to use again

anyway
back to the original point of this post
after I woke
I thought some on those dreams
brushed my teeth
washed my face
went into my office for a smoke
and to check my email

it was sitting there
that I realized that I had been sweating in my sleep
[I forgot to turn the thermostat down last night]
[as I was drunk]
[and I haven't yet set it on a schedule yet]
and
I was a stinky mess

so I finished my cigarette
jumped in the shower

problem solved

No Nodoro needed.

Comments

[radiantsun.livejournal.com]

Do your three wives get to have their own playmates now and then? Because that sounds like a sweet deal . . . especially if the wives get along and don't play those bullshit cutthroat games a few women play.

[plural.livejournal.com]

the dream didn't really cover
the sexual aspects of the relationship

in life
It isn't something I've really encountered
I went through a brief phase
of dating girls who were bi-sexual
and the general rule was
they could bring someone to our bed
but outside play was a no no.

I've only had one relationship
which involved more than one person
which took place during the same period of my life
in which a girl I was living with
invited one of her female friends to move in with us

I had sex with each of them
and they had sex with each other
but the question of outside individuals never came up

so I guess the short answer is that
I do not know
considering that the opportunity to pursue something like this
let alone the desirability of doing so
is quite unlikely
I haven't put much thought into
how I would feel in that regard

[plural.livejournal.com]

I think the hardest thing would be determining who took which role and for how long. I suspect that to a large extent roles would shift over time with the changing needs of individuals and the group but it would still require some sacrifices.

That is to say, if more than one person wants a specific role, someone will have to be gracious, that said, there is no reason why the roles have to be exactly defined along the lines of the dream, I could see quite a bit of possibility for hybridization of roles to meet individual desires.

Take yourself for example, someone with the flexibility allowed by your chosen career, could easily choose to split their time between income earning and child rearing, the only catch is that someone else in the group would also need to have said flexibility.

If the income stream was coming primarily from wage earnings that might be difficult, but I think ideally for such a situation, all individuals should be able to contribute to an independent method of income generation (like owning a business) which allows the most in terms of flexibility.

From my own point of view, working a job would take much of the fun out of it as trying to manage vacation schedules for that many people would make planning a family vacation quite difficult and what fun is having three hot wives, oodles of beautiful children and a sleek yacht if you can't all play together from time to time.

[radiantsun.livejournal.com]

Unless it's a family owned and operated business . . .. I can see enjoying all three roles, although I find the running a business one terrifying. Although the business I would want to run, involves a lot of working vacation . . .

[plural.livejournal.com]

Not to sounds sexist or domineering, as I am responding below primarily because I know my own skills and even given my confidences in the three lovely women in my dreams, I do not have an accurate assessment of either their skills or their interests, let alone any other mythological women in such a situation.

In the theory, the ideal situation for me would be a starting a business (say land development in the third world) which I would run with the help of one or more of the wives and likely outside employees at some point.

I would want to avoid, as I said above, a situation where either myself or any of the wives is overly obligated to anyone outside of the relationship simply because that limits the control and flexibility of what would be a very complex and delicate environment.

I think it would be pretty crucial to the success of such an endeavor to be able to take a day off at random just to have quality time and ensure everyone feels valued by each other and the group as a whole. Employers tend to frown on that sort of thing.

That said, I would have no objection to the vast number of other options for income/wealth generation and while I suspect that in any situation I would end up being primarily focused on the financial side of such an arrangement given that my strengths lie significantly in that area and generally exceed those of most people I meet.

Of course, that said, regardless of what my primary obligation to the group is, I would not accept a situation which did not allow me to play a significant role in the rearing of my children and/or be an emotional/social/physical partner to all of those within the group

[zaiah.livejournal.com]

Ahem. I'm glad to see the seeds planted 5 years ago finally bubbling up and through. Irespective of the specifics of that dream - I am quite pleased you could envision yourself, even if only when asleep, in such a happy place. That said, I (am crazy enough to) think that sort of a family arrangement has the capacity to work beautifully.

[ignote.livejournal.com]

Ever seen "Big Love"? lol

[plural.livejournal.com]

can't say that i have

[ignote.livejournal.com]

It is fascinating - I don't get HBO, but I rented the first season from netflix. It opened my brainwashed lutheran head to the idea that it's possible that one person can't provide everything to you. Although, I kind of knew that from experience...

[atillathehung.livejournal.com]

Saved yourself bucks and time, you did. I'm thinking of how much fun it would be to start a "Men Against Nodoro" campaign. The acronym is PERFECT!

[plural.livejournal.com]

Indeed
on all counts