Stop making sense

[plural]

spent the evening with the redhead

its was good fun
lots of loving and schmoozing

she apparently had one of those long talks with her mother
she said it was a really good talk
but managed to get her mother to understand
that at twenty three she is an adult
and to back off on the treating her like a child bit

later on we were talking
and I found out that some amount of their conversation
was about me and her dating me

the other night
she had this knot in her back and asked if I could try to get it out
being that I give such great hand
she said her mother had tried and hadn't been able to get it
so
with a grin I said

"sure, but if I get it out you have to tell her I did"

not really expecting
with the tension on the subject of me
that she would

well she did
and also about how good of a cook I am
and other things along the lines of being a gentle/kind lover
[though I doubt they talked much about sex specifically]

anyway her mothers response
and some other tidbits from the discussion
which she shared
cleared up the "why her mother hates me" question
quite well

Apparently
her mother thought the bruises
which she had in the first couple of days of our dating
[and which her mother saw]
were from me shall we say
being abusive to her
as opposed to us just being a bit voracious in our lovemaking
[which was how they occurred]

of course she tried to explain to her mother
that nothing like that was going on
but she doesn't think her mother totally believed her
its hard to deny something like that
without sounding like, well, you are in denial

now to my knowledge
she hasn't had an issue with abusive relationships
but I can see why it would set off major warning bells
with her mother

So I have decided
to slowly start giving more direction
and focus to repairing their perceptions
as while we haven't had the talk

the other night
while cuddling nekkid on the couch
she asked me what I was thinking
and I said

"that I think you like me more than you let on"

she smiled softly
that sort of knowing smile women master quite young
[the type that also says silly boy asking silly questions]
and said

"yes, yes I do"

so
I am thinking in the next week or so
when it reaches about a month of having been together
I will say that I want to do this thing exclusively like

It feels a lot to me that in the few days we were apart
she conquered or at least got control of whatever fears she had
about our relationship

before whenever we had a pretty intense or intimate moment
I could feel her sort of withdrawing afterwards
as if she was uncomfortable with it
and she hasn't done that since we got back together

so who knows
but
I am enjoying our time together

what else is there to say?

Comments

question...

[anjel.livejournal.com]

is said redhead
who, incidentally has the best colour hair, and not only because i too am a redhead
still leaving?

or

are you

thinking about that situation...

[plural.livejournal.com]

not sure what you mean exactly

her family is moving to halifax in a few months
[about three or four hours away]
and as far as I know
most likely she will as well

yes...

[anjel.livejournal.com]

is her family still moving and is she.
which you answered.
this whole story has intrigued me.
carry on :)

[budhaboy.livejournal.com]

what else is there to say?

I want to hear about the dog...

I also want pictures [of the dog].

[plural.livejournal.com]

will see what I can do tomorrow

we are planning to take said dog
for a walk

[plural.livejournal.com]

erm today even

[hiraya.livejournal.com]

:)

(Just that. Just :). )

[gryphon.livejournal.com]

at this point, what else IS there to say?

:)

glad things seem to be sorting themselves out for you. this post just has a rosy glow all over it.

[whatdot.livejournal.com]

Congrats, I hope it all goes well :)

[thawaltzingfool.livejournal.com]

I am enjoying our time together

That is what matters.

[ignote.livejournal.com]

Good for her! (And you, of course.)