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The banner of manhood [revisited from 10-15-2002]
I am tired of hearing women bitch and whine about how there are not any real men left. When they have done more to destroy the altar of manhood with their misguided pussy-whipping ways than anyone else.
Women want security for all their liberated bullshit talk, they just want to feel safe, safe in their person, life and relationships. Most chicks are clueless about manhood and indeed even clueless about womanhood. This is why relationships are so fucked up these days
Physical security is at least in form is provided by society in the form of police, so women do not need men to provide it. In our society security is control, control of behavior and money. Women are not stupid, they see this, and so what do they do? They use love, sex and those pretty little eyes to wrap men around their fingers. They browbeat and manipulate them into fulfilling their little whims, to validate and secure them that they are safe in their relationships, and then they complain that their men are not passionate or romantic. Well maybe if you did not beat it out of him he would be or maybe you just fucked up and picked yourself a boy.
Put down the damn remote, turn off that sick and perverse romantic comedy and stop pining for your dream man. Stop whining to your friends about how you wish you could just find a nice guy. You do not want a nice guy, nice guys are fucking pussies who will do anything for whatever piece of ass you throw their way, most of those suckers will do anything for the idea that you might throw a piece of ass their way. Women know this which is why they lead on the nice guys and fuck the assholes. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free right? You see the reason assholes get laid is simple, women have a complex about being special, and somehow they all think they can get blood from a rock. Sure he is an asshole but I am so damn hot and special he will do it for me. Well I am here to tell you he won't.
Why do you think chicks are always fucking married men? Because they all have this wet dream fantasy that he will prove his love by leaving his wife, and isn't it romantic? No it is psychotic and stupid. Any person who will leave or cheat on their significant other because a nice new piece of ass came along, will do it again the next time a nice new piece of ass comes along. Cheating has nothing to do with you, sure the excuses do, you might be fat, not putting out or a hundred other reasons, but they do not matter, the person would still cheat. [I will go more into cheating later in this post]
The simple fact is that most "women" are really little girls with big tits and a bouncy ass you can fuck without going to jail. They are insecure little girls who would freak out if faced with a real man, a man they could not control. It all comes back to security in ones person and self-confidence. A woman (not a girl) dating a man (not a boy) would have no need to control him, she would know without a doubt that he would never do anything to violate whatever agreements they have, because it is not in his nature. She would know that he means what he says, says what he means and most importantly lets his actions speak for him. She would not need reassurances, although they are always nice.
That is what being a man or being a woman is about, knowing who you are, what you want, and what you stand for and not compromising your principles.
And I am sick of punk ass little boys posturing about how tough they are.
Tough guys do not posture, they don't threaten, they simply do.
Fighting does not make a man
Fucking does not make a man
Talking does not make a man
Action makes a man and not just any action, well thought-out action in accordance with personal principles is what makes a man a man. A man knows himself and what he is capable of, what he wants and what he is willing to do to get that which he desires.
He does not make excuses because his friends do not need them and his enemies do not care and his actions speak so loudly that his words are irrelevant.
I am not going to get in a bravado contest with you and dance around some bar like a pansy ass bitch talking shit. Either I am going lay you flat without saying a word or more likely I will decide your pathetic ass is not worth the trouble and walk away. I have nothing to prove neither to myself nor to anyone else. I have a list of things worth fighting for if you cross those lines, I will step up to that place without argument or warning. Who knows if you're lucky you might surprise me, but it has been a long time since anyone has.
Insult me all you want, it just shows your insecurities, you won't provoke me into a fight over foolish pride.
The only times I am swing my fists are the following:
In self defense
In defense of family or friends
In defense of someone who is unable to defend themselves
That is it, I will not for any other reason, and in those situations, I do not care if you are bigger than me, how many friends you have with you, it does not matter, when you cross that line of principle I must take a stand. It is not a choice. I am willing to get my ass kicked over my principles if necessary. You see I have this belief about life, anything which we do not protest we allow, if I see you smacking your woman around and do nothing I allow that behavior into my world, and that I will not have.
Men do not cheat on their lovers. Cheating is the provenance of little boys and pussy-whipped men who have neither the strength nor the will to do what they want openly.
Real men say what they want upfront, do what they want openly and accept the consequences.
If you want to fuck a girl and it is really so important to you that you are willing to risk your current relationship, that is information your partner has a right to know. Be straight up, tell them that you have an overwhelming desire to fuck another woman, and you do not know what to do about it, or just say "I am going to fuck her, but seeing as I am fucking you now, I felt you had a right to know about it first." On the most basic level it is a matter of personal safety, if you are banging some other chick you are putting her at a greater risk of contracting an STD, she has a right to decide what level of risk is acceptable to her. Besides you never know how she will respond, she may freak out and tell you to go to hell, which you completely deserve but still she will eventually respect you for being upfront and honest about it. She may be cool with it, want to watch or even participate, you will never know unless you give her the option.
Cheating is not about sex, it is about cowardice and a lack of self-respect. The reason most people find it easy to cheat is because they attach the wrong reasons to faithfulness, these reasons are flimsy and transient. For a man, there is only one reason not to cheat, because you said you would not. If you rely on love, beauty or any other reason not to cheat, it will fail you. The only reason that will withstand the tests of life and time is that of personal dignity.
I have never, and will never cheat, because that is not the kind of man I am.
I have too much pride to discard my dignity for a piece of ass.
You do not have to say the word monogamy to be in a monogamous relationship. Women sort of take that for granted, which maybe be their fault, but a man doesn't hide behind the failings of others. If you fuck her and continue to fuck her, it is a monogamous relationship, unless you specifically state it otherwise. One night stands I will address in a moment.
For example, this girl I fucked the other night, when I finish this post, I am going to call her, make plans to see her in a couple of days. Now I am not interested in a monogamous relationship but she is a sweet piece of ass which I enjoy fucking. So before I sleep with her again I will clarify this, let her know where I stand and what my reason are, and let her choose the path forward. If she is only interested in sleeping with me in the context of a committed relationship then I hope we can be friends, or if she chooses to continue sleeping with me on a friends with benefits arrangement that works too, or if she just tells me to go to hell, I probably deserve it. The key point is however we go forward is on open and clear terms, she knows what she is giving, what she is getting in return and what the boundaries are.
She may not like it, she may want more, but the cards are on the table and she isn't being lead on she chooses what level she wants to play on, and accepts the consequences as well.
some hints on one night stands
The key thing with one night stands is to find out what she wants and be clear with what you want. Do what you say, say what you do. Do not slink out in the middle of the night, or have her wake up with you half dressed and mumbling something about forgetting about an early meeting, you both know it is bullshit and it just makes you look like an asshole. The first thing you need to get over is the idea that you are getting away with something, there is nothing wrong with one night stands, they do not make you an asshole nor her a slut as long as they are handled correctly.
While she may choose to be a slut,
[a one night stand is not in itself evidence of that]
that is her own choice, being an asshole is entirely up to you.
I know you may not understand this but chicks like sex as much as we do.
It is just that most of the time you are such an asshole that the idea of fucking you is entirely too revolting to contemplate.
Handled correctly a one night stand is a healthy thing, two people getting their needs met without a lot of bullshit attached.
First thing, find out if she wants you to spend the night or get the hell out after sex, and you girls need to be straight about this as well.
If you want us to cuddle you tell us, if you want us to get the fuck out after you come, tell us that too.
and I am sick and tired of hearing guys bitch about feeling uncomfortable sleeping with the chick, ten minutes ago you were comfortable enough sticking your dick in her. Besides use your fucking brains, if you spend the night you can wake her up with some great morning sex, make her a cup of coffee and give her a kiss before heading home to shower and change, trust me she will appreciate it, you may even get invited back. If you absolutely can not stand the idea of sleeping there, then be upfront about it, say you would rather sleep in your own bed and go home, do not make excuses, spin yards of bullshit or otherwise act like a weasel. Just because something is uncomfortable or difficult is not an excuse to behave poorly.
Treat her with respect, kindness and for god sake go down on her and do it properly. Sure I got a crick in my next that has been killing me for the last two days, but she came five times and you'd better believe all her friends know my name. Women talk about sex amongst their friends to a degree that you would not believe, trust me on this you do not want to be known as the thirty second pencil dick that that couldn't lick his way through edible underwear.
Women want security for all their liberated bullshit talk, they just want to feel safe, safe in their person, life and relationships. Most chicks are clueless about manhood and indeed even clueless about womanhood. This is why relationships are so fucked up these days
Physical security is at least in form is provided by society in the form of police, so women do not need men to provide it. In our society security is control, control of behavior and money. Women are not stupid, they see this, and so what do they do? They use love, sex and those pretty little eyes to wrap men around their fingers. They browbeat and manipulate them into fulfilling their little whims, to validate and secure them that they are safe in their relationships, and then they complain that their men are not passionate or romantic. Well maybe if you did not beat it out of him he would be or maybe you just fucked up and picked yourself a boy.
Put down the damn remote, turn off that sick and perverse romantic comedy and stop pining for your dream man. Stop whining to your friends about how you wish you could just find a nice guy. You do not want a nice guy, nice guys are fucking pussies who will do anything for whatever piece of ass you throw their way, most of those suckers will do anything for the idea that you might throw a piece of ass their way. Women know this which is why they lead on the nice guys and fuck the assholes. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free right? You see the reason assholes get laid is simple, women have a complex about being special, and somehow they all think they can get blood from a rock. Sure he is an asshole but I am so damn hot and special he will do it for me. Well I am here to tell you he won't.
Why do you think chicks are always fucking married men? Because they all have this wet dream fantasy that he will prove his love by leaving his wife, and isn't it romantic? No it is psychotic and stupid. Any person who will leave or cheat on their significant other because a nice new piece of ass came along, will do it again the next time a nice new piece of ass comes along. Cheating has nothing to do with you, sure the excuses do, you might be fat, not putting out or a hundred other reasons, but they do not matter, the person would still cheat. [I will go more into cheating later in this post]
The simple fact is that most "women" are really little girls with big tits and a bouncy ass you can fuck without going to jail. They are insecure little girls who would freak out if faced with a real man, a man they could not control. It all comes back to security in ones person and self-confidence. A woman (not a girl) dating a man (not a boy) would have no need to control him, she would know without a doubt that he would never do anything to violate whatever agreements they have, because it is not in his nature. She would know that he means what he says, says what he means and most importantly lets his actions speak for him. She would not need reassurances, although they are always nice.
That is what being a man or being a woman is about, knowing who you are, what you want, and what you stand for and not compromising your principles.
And I am sick of punk ass little boys posturing about how tough they are.
Tough guys do not posture, they don't threaten, they simply do.
Fighting does not make a man
Fucking does not make a man
Talking does not make a man
Action makes a man and not just any action, well thought-out action in accordance with personal principles is what makes a man a man. A man knows himself and what he is capable of, what he wants and what he is willing to do to get that which he desires.
He does not make excuses because his friends do not need them and his enemies do not care and his actions speak so loudly that his words are irrelevant.
I am not going to get in a bravado contest with you and dance around some bar like a pansy ass bitch talking shit. Either I am going lay you flat without saying a word or more likely I will decide your pathetic ass is not worth the trouble and walk away. I have nothing to prove neither to myself nor to anyone else. I have a list of things worth fighting for if you cross those lines, I will step up to that place without argument or warning. Who knows if you're lucky you might surprise me, but it has been a long time since anyone has.
Insult me all you want, it just shows your insecurities, you won't provoke me into a fight over foolish pride.
The only times I am swing my fists are the following:
In self defense
In defense of family or friends
In defense of someone who is unable to defend themselves
That is it, I will not for any other reason, and in those situations, I do not care if you are bigger than me, how many friends you have with you, it does not matter, when you cross that line of principle I must take a stand. It is not a choice. I am willing to get my ass kicked over my principles if necessary. You see I have this belief about life, anything which we do not protest we allow, if I see you smacking your woman around and do nothing I allow that behavior into my world, and that I will not have.
Men do not cheat on their lovers. Cheating is the provenance of little boys and pussy-whipped men who have neither the strength nor the will to do what they want openly.
Real men say what they want upfront, do what they want openly and accept the consequences.
If you want to fuck a girl and it is really so important to you that you are willing to risk your current relationship, that is information your partner has a right to know. Be straight up, tell them that you have an overwhelming desire to fuck another woman, and you do not know what to do about it, or just say "I am going to fuck her, but seeing as I am fucking you now, I felt you had a right to know about it first." On the most basic level it is a matter of personal safety, if you are banging some other chick you are putting her at a greater risk of contracting an STD, she has a right to decide what level of risk is acceptable to her. Besides you never know how she will respond, she may freak out and tell you to go to hell, which you completely deserve but still she will eventually respect you for being upfront and honest about it. She may be cool with it, want to watch or even participate, you will never know unless you give her the option.
Cheating is not about sex, it is about cowardice and a lack of self-respect. The reason most people find it easy to cheat is because they attach the wrong reasons to faithfulness, these reasons are flimsy and transient. For a man, there is only one reason not to cheat, because you said you would not. If you rely on love, beauty or any other reason not to cheat, it will fail you. The only reason that will withstand the tests of life and time is that of personal dignity.
I have never, and will never cheat, because that is not the kind of man I am.
I have too much pride to discard my dignity for a piece of ass.
You do not have to say the word monogamy to be in a monogamous relationship. Women sort of take that for granted, which maybe be their fault, but a man doesn't hide behind the failings of others. If you fuck her and continue to fuck her, it is a monogamous relationship, unless you specifically state it otherwise. One night stands I will address in a moment.
For example, this girl I fucked the other night, when I finish this post, I am going to call her, make plans to see her in a couple of days. Now I am not interested in a monogamous relationship but she is a sweet piece of ass which I enjoy fucking. So before I sleep with her again I will clarify this, let her know where I stand and what my reason are, and let her choose the path forward. If she is only interested in sleeping with me in the context of a committed relationship then I hope we can be friends, or if she chooses to continue sleeping with me on a friends with benefits arrangement that works too, or if she just tells me to go to hell, I probably deserve it. The key point is however we go forward is on open and clear terms, she knows what she is giving, what she is getting in return and what the boundaries are.
She may not like it, she may want more, but the cards are on the table and she isn't being lead on she chooses what level she wants to play on, and accepts the consequences as well.
some hints on one night stands
The key thing with one night stands is to find out what she wants and be clear with what you want. Do what you say, say what you do. Do not slink out in the middle of the night, or have her wake up with you half dressed and mumbling something about forgetting about an early meeting, you both know it is bullshit and it just makes you look like an asshole. The first thing you need to get over is the idea that you are getting away with something, there is nothing wrong with one night stands, they do not make you an asshole nor her a slut as long as they are handled correctly.
While she may choose to be a slut,
[a one night stand is not in itself evidence of that]
that is her own choice, being an asshole is entirely up to you.
I know you may not understand this but chicks like sex as much as we do.
It is just that most of the time you are such an asshole that the idea of fucking you is entirely too revolting to contemplate.
Handled correctly a one night stand is a healthy thing, two people getting their needs met without a lot of bullshit attached.
First thing, find out if she wants you to spend the night or get the hell out after sex, and you girls need to be straight about this as well.
If you want us to cuddle you tell us, if you want us to get the fuck out after you come, tell us that too.
and I am sick and tired of hearing guys bitch about feeling uncomfortable sleeping with the chick, ten minutes ago you were comfortable enough sticking your dick in her. Besides use your fucking brains, if you spend the night you can wake her up with some great morning sex, make her a cup of coffee and give her a kiss before heading home to shower and change, trust me she will appreciate it, you may even get invited back. If you absolutely can not stand the idea of sleeping there, then be upfront about it, say you would rather sleep in your own bed and go home, do not make excuses, spin yards of bullshit or otherwise act like a weasel. Just because something is uncomfortable or difficult is not an excuse to behave poorly.
Treat her with respect, kindness and for god sake go down on her and do it properly. Sure I got a crick in my next that has been killing me for the last two days, but she came five times and you'd better believe all her friends know my name. Women talk about sex amongst their friends to a degree that you would not believe, trust me on this you do not want to be known as the thirty second pencil dick that that couldn't lick his way through edible underwear.
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I would like to add one point to this..
It is not an unattractive thing to admit you dont know something..
If you are sleeping with someone be it a man or a woman and they have more experience than you - lay back and enjoy the damn ride, dont try to match with ego and over compensate with false confidence - they will know and it makes you look _REALLY_ unattractive.
On a further note to this, and i am speaking from me, as a female's point of view.
If _SHE_ knows more, cope. If that bruises your ego.. go take a long look at yourself and wonder why it is she did not want to see you again.
If you have the balls to admit that she has more experience, fucking enjoy it - let her teach you what she knows - cause hell.. why would you NOT want to sleep with a sexually liberated woman?
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The Best Laid PLans
Comments, do you even want any? I'm afraid I am naturally skeptical of people who talk in terms of "real men" and "real women", although, like everyone else, I have my own ideas of how to define the category, and some of yours I agree with. I particularly like the idea about men, or I would say, people, having a plan of action and actually acting on it. Although I often find that it is the people who plan, and even plan successfully. I find the least attractive to be around. Is this my character flaw, the inevitable personality conflict between doers and dreamers? Probably.
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I've always had a soft spot in my heart for chicks named Emily. I think it's because the first girl I had as a friend was named Emily. I think we were both six.
shit, long response! part 1
Amen for the straightforward truth, for just being yourself FOR yourself, not to please anyone else.
Any person who will leave or cheat on their significant other because a nice new piece of ass came along, will do it again the next time a nice new piece of ass comes along.
I tried to explain this once to a friend of mine who was cheating. I tried to explain she was nothing special to him, she was just his out from the marriage temporarily here and there, a little distraction that got him worked up. But she didn't buy it. There was some romance written in the stars. Yeah, whatever. If someone's fucking cheating on their wife, they're gonna fucking cheat on you too. IF they leave. Which, chances are, they won't. I've seen it in the relationships that did break up so the cheating people can be together... they are always together. There's no trust, and plenty of experience that leads them to imagine very vividly what might be happening while their partner is away. And, with that friend, when she finally broke up the affair, she got into a relationship where her boyfriend cannot talk to other women. We were friends for years before they really met. But, it's not her fault entirely even though I think it's fucking nuts to try and tell someone not to be themselves, to try and dictate who any other person should be. He chooses to abide by this, to say it's okay that she sets the crazy rules, and so, hey. I'm not interfering. Clearly my friendship was not that big a deal to begin with, and that's cool too, 'cause I have friends that are fully 100% themselves and appreciate that's all I can be, too.
A woman (not a girl) dating a man (not a boy) would have no need to control him, she would know without a doubt that he would never do anything to violate whatever agreements they have, because it is not in his nature.
Amen. That's really all I can say.
That is what being a man or being a woman is about, knowing who you are, what you want, and what you stand for and not compromising your principles.
This deserves another amen. A guy friend once told me that what he liked about me was the sense that I really knew what I was about, what I wanted. I thought it was such an odd statement at the time, because I assumed that was how everyone was. And then I started noticing that it really wasn't. Wouldn't it be so much easier for everyone, though, if they'd just get comfortable telling it like it is? Just being themselves? If anyone finds that's not enough, fuck them. But there's no point for evasiveness, no time for lies, and that's beautiful.
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It is just that most of the time you are such an asshole that the idea of fucking you is entirely too revolting to contemplate.
Like I said at the top, all this wisdom. You would be the tribal leader with all this wisdom if we were a tribe.
I would say more, but I honestly am still groggy as hell and it would just be redundant reiterations of "hey, that's right too." Oh, but there is one more thing - thinking of a couple of your recent posts, I was talking with my brother yesterday. He was telling me how there are some girls worth changing for and that he was trying to change for this girl. I basically said that was creepy, that even though he's an idealist, the way he's going to "get chicks" is just by being himself, every bit himself apologetically. That kind of confidence and certainty is really hot. Sitting around eyeing from the corner is frankly creepy. Just be yourself. Sometimes that'll be a turn-on to people you like, sometimes it won't, but the times it isn't? Who cares? There are so many other people out there that, though some may be particularly beautiful and striking inwardly and out, the "no" of one person just means you have to look a little longer for the person who'll make it worth it.
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1 2 3 4 let's have a journal war
Most chicks are clueless about manhood and indeed even clueless about womanhood. This is why relationships are so fucked up these days.
We're NOT as clueless as you think my dear.
We're taking over. You'd better get used to it buddy boy.
Do you see what I'm doing over here? Oh wait- I'm having my cake and eating it too!
Kisses,
~ A.S.M.
ps- I'm sure she didn't cum 5 times as a result of YOU! She did as a result of many many kegal exercises. You were just able to hold out- why don't you go pin a medal to your chest huh? Sometimes I just want guys like you to get the hell off of me. After too long it starts hurting & we pretend we're having more orgasms than we are. (although I'm usually able to have at least 3 or 4 real ones) Do you know why we pretend? So YOU'LL be happy with the number of orgasms you think YOU created & you'll GET THE HELL OFF OF US!
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actually yall are
*grin*
and re your ps
I never said I was on top of her
nor that those orgasms had anything
to do with intercourse
*sigh*
I know, I should address the jackhammer syndrome at somepoint shouldnt I.
lastly
I am not a great lover because of my big dick
nor because I know how to use it
but simply
because I pay attention to and listen to my women and their bodies.
rather than just do whatever I think might have worked with some other chick before
every time I make love I am paying attention to what she wants, needs and likes at that particular moment, and at the particular time.
I have found with myself and my women, that assuming what got a person off the night before, is exactly what they want or need tonight, tends to lead to freaking boring sex pretty damn quick.
Kiss me dahling
I can eat a peach for hours
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everyone is allowed a few shameful secrets
*Grin*
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quite honestly...
while i may not agree with 100% of it, i agree with 99.9% of it.
perfection is of course, unnatural ;)
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your the best, ever.
♥
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and
but of course
*wicked grin*
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BTW, this was linked in the Guysonly community...
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though I am curious how you found me/this?
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I just went back to re-read it.
.. God it rings true for me right now.
I wish I could tell you how much.
... I will email you about it tomorrow.
Love to you Mr. Plural. You are an amazing man, one I have a long term burning desire to spend a night with over many drinks, get lost with you in the quiet of a bedroom somewhere.
.. *blush*
.. I am not usually this candid. However, this entry is back far enough for no one to see me be so foward..
*quiet smile*
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