onward and upward ... or something like that

so

anyway I spent several hours speaking with the young woman mentioned in the previous post
[about the meaning of the word "harem"]
a most interesting conversation indeed

it turns out she moved from Saudi Arabia to Halifax about a year ago
when her husband married a second wife against her wishes

here is a woman who has been censured, jailed and publicly flogged
for desiring those most basic of freedoms we take for granted
and she beats herself up emotionally
because she does not feel she shows enough compassion to her patients sometimes
[she is an anesthesiologist]

she has a good deal of male orientated baggage
of course, with her background I cant blame her
being told to accept your husband beating you for several years
among the myriad of other ways women are oppressed in Saudi

I am more surprised that she is a balanced as she is
than that she has some baggage.

It is funny how our conversation has developed

from her first question of "are you looking for an orgy"
to which I responded "no, but I am not diametrically opposed to one"

to her saying I reminded her of her ex
I, of course, asked why
and she said "he decided he needed another wife on top of me"
and my explaining the difference in my perspective regarding a wife versus a harem girl

when that conversation ended
I rather did not expect to talk with her again
but this evening she messaged me again

as I had changed my headline as I discussed in the previous post
I explained the change and she said all of two sentences to me
before saying "have a good night"
but I gave her my new messenger account
that I opened for this purpose
again not really expecting to hear from her again

but sure enough about an hour later she im'd me
and we start talking and keep talking
for several hours getting fairly in depth

she is quite an interesting woman
in fact, if our cultural backgrounds were not diametrically opposed
to the degree that made a relationship impossible
I would be interested in pursuing something

but for now, I enjoy our little chats
and I will leave it at that

Failures of Darwinism

today was looking like a good day

I went to french class
spent some time on homework
went out and did some work on a photography project
came home
did some post-production work

chatted with the Saudi girl for a while as I worked,
helped her shop for a house
wished her luck on her driving test tomorrow
[she has never had a license before]
[as women are not allowed to drive in Saudi]

and went to the gym

had a good work out
and headed out to my car
to make a run to the grocery store
before heading home

on the sidewalk
as I was reaching my car
I was accosted by a fellow
who had not gotten over a prior dispute we had

apparently he felt that my head butting him
[after he swung at me]
was a cheap shot
and wanted a rematch

I sighed
head butted him again
got in my car
and drove the grocery store


some people will never learn I suppose