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[a quick prefix]
[I attribute many ideas and behaviors]
[in the ramblings below, to men and women]
[as groups within our society]
[I am not speaking of individuals]
[nor am I applying these characteristics to the entire group]
[this is merely my opinions and how I view our culture]
[many of the "way things are" statements are not necessarily]
[how I think things should be, but more so how I see them]
[enacted in our society]
as a rule
I do not ask
how many partners
my women have had
nor do I divulge
how many I have had
partly because
I do not know
I do not keep track
and
could care less
what the numbers
add up too
I do not have a punchcard to be filled
nor a belt to be notched
I dont have a poontang hunting
liscense from the state
with quotas and limits.
I do not compare statistics with my friends
I am not keeping score
If I die
having slept with
one more or one less
person
it wont make the least bit of
difference to me
perhaps I am strange man
in that when I sleep with a
woman has no bearing on my
valuation of her
my longest relationship
3.5 years was with someone
with whom I slept with
on the first date
the biological end game
is to procreate and women hold
the keys to that gate.
Men are insecure.
in our society
We are told our self worth
is measured
by the car we drive,
the amount of money we make
or the number of women we have slept with.
Women judge the value of a man
by the quality and quantity of the women
he entertains.
[perhaps not solely but]
[it can be a definite factor]
A man with a girlfriend is infinitely
more attractive to women than one without
[guys if you want to check this out]
[wear something resembling a wedding band]
[to a bar sometime]
after all some other chick has validated him,
you know if another chick who you can relate too
can stand him, then he probably isn't a complete loser.
the argument that women want an experienced lover
which is why they like men
who have slept around
is obfuscation,
what they want is a lover
[regardless of experience]
who doesn't treat sex like a wrestling match
[a whole lot of grabbing and pushing]
[with a 10 second time line]
women want men who listen to their bodies and
take care of their sexual needs,
many men
treat sex
like assisted masturbation.
so a guy who has slept with many women
has been selected by many women
which must mean he has the right qualities
[let someone else do the homework]
therefore elevates his value in the
eyes of the feminine kind
[many will dispute me on this]
[but I think if you look honestly]
[you will find signs of it everywhere]
the other factor is
market economics
everything in life
is a commodity
in days past
it was often the case
that the first woman you slept with
was the one you married.
in sex there has always been
an inequality in power
women have the pussy
men want the pussy
by pretending that women
aren't nearly as horny or interested in sex
women propagated an expensive courting ritual
by which a man sought a woman's affections
women want the old way
doors being held open
dinners and dates being paid for
but
to add the freedom to
do whatever they want
on top of that
the problem is this
if a guy can get the pussy for free,
why the hell would he pay for it
there has to be value added
into the proposition
for me that value comes
in the form of an intelligent and
interesting mind attached
to that pussy.
in the past
the demand for pussy
greatly exceeded the supply
of available pussy
that isn't true any more
most any guy
can go out most any night
and find an attractive female to sleep with
for a cost of a drink or two
and maybe an hour of
pretending to be interested
her random babble
promiscuity both among males and females
is in somewhat of a cultural crisis.
with 1 in 2 americans admitting that they
have cheated on their partner in the past
or that they are currently doing so
we are all obsessed with the idea
that our partners might cheat on us
this undermines the basic trust
required to have a relationship.
for the past fifty years
as a culture we have glorified
the passion and love that supposedly
flares up uncontrollably into a torrid affair.
yet women want to feel special
women want to feel unique
men don't get that luxury
we know, and are often reminded
that you could go out and find
a replacement in a hour
we are not special
you are not special
I am not special
human beings are not special
"we are the same decaying organic matter as everything else"
women get preferential treatment
in most things
this is sexist
women want to keep these sexist benefits
but remove the sexist disadvantages
I think
that women enjoying their
sexuality and acting
"like men"
is wonderful
it will bring about a revolution
in honesty in inter-sexual relations
men and women will fuck
because they both get pleasure out of it
not because a man bought her dinner
or
because if she don't put out on the third date
[or whatever the popular number of the week is]
the man wont keep seeing her.
and men will treat women
like they treat other men
which is badly
actually let me address this
differently
people treat each other badly
men wanting to get in women's pants
treat them better
that would effectively end.
overall the sexual revolution and women's liberation
have worked overwhelmingly in the favor of men
we can now fuck
who we want
when we want
as often as we want
and
no longer are we
stigmatized for it.
it used to be
if a man got exposed
cheating on his wife
he could lose his job
in the military
adultery is still a criminal offense
now it is common place
we hear that so and so
is having an affair
and think nothing of it
other than a
passing
[what a slimy bastard]
but in time even that will change
because as women explore their sexuality
and sexual freedom and acknowledge their desires
it validates the desires in men and
plays into the old excuse that men just can't help themselves
Women make villains of women
who sleep with other women's men
but
the way I see it
[and men do the same]
If you make a commitment
to someone, and they make the
same commitment to you
to be monogamous
if that commitment is broken
only the person who made the commitment
is at fault
if your boy/girl/otherfriend cheats on you
the other person hasn't done
anything wrong
they didn't make any commitments to you
your boy/girl/otherfriend did however
and as much as people say
"they didn't mean to do it"
or
"it didn't mean anything"
they are lying
was it an accident?
did they trip on a phone cord and "Whoops" they got fucked?
what didn't mean anything?
obviously the commitment to monogamy
is what didn't mean anything,
if they so easily jumped into bed with someone else
men want sex
we are trained that
we do not have to control our desires
the responsibility for a man
not cheating on his wife,
is left to all the women of the world
not to sleep with him because
he is "spoken for"
that is fucked up daisy
and my question is
is teaching our women
to act the same way
really what we need?
[I attribute many ideas and behaviors]
[in the ramblings below, to men and women]
[as groups within our society]
[I am not speaking of individuals]
[nor am I applying these characteristics to the entire group]
[this is merely my opinions and how I view our culture]
[many of the "way things are" statements are not necessarily]
[how I think things should be, but more so how I see them]
[enacted in our society]
as a rule
I do not ask
how many partners
my women have had
nor do I divulge
how many I have had
partly because
I do not know
I do not keep track
and
could care less
what the numbers
add up too
I do not have a punchcard to be filled
nor a belt to be notched
I dont have a poontang hunting
liscense from the state
with quotas and limits.
I do not compare statistics with my friends
I am not keeping score
If I die
having slept with
one more or one less
person
it wont make the least bit of
difference to me
perhaps I am strange man
in that when I sleep with a
woman has no bearing on my
valuation of her
my longest relationship
3.5 years was with someone
with whom I slept with
on the first date
the biological end game
is to procreate and women hold
the keys to that gate.
Men are insecure.
in our society
We are told our self worth
is measured
by the car we drive,
the amount of money we make
or the number of women we have slept with.
Women judge the value of a man
by the quality and quantity of the women
he entertains.
[perhaps not solely but]
[it can be a definite factor]
A man with a girlfriend is infinitely
more attractive to women than one without
[guys if you want to check this out]
[wear something resembling a wedding band]
[to a bar sometime]
after all some other chick has validated him,
you know if another chick who you can relate too
can stand him, then he probably isn't a complete loser.
the argument that women want an experienced lover
which is why they like men
who have slept around
is obfuscation,
what they want is a lover
[regardless of experience]
who doesn't treat sex like a wrestling match
[a whole lot of grabbing and pushing]
[with a 10 second time line]
women want men who listen to their bodies and
take care of their sexual needs,
many men
treat sex
like assisted masturbation.
so a guy who has slept with many women
has been selected by many women
which must mean he has the right qualities
[let someone else do the homework]
therefore elevates his value in the
eyes of the feminine kind
[many will dispute me on this]
[but I think if you look honestly]
[you will find signs of it everywhere]
the other factor is
market economics
everything in life
is a commodity
in days past
it was often the case
that the first woman you slept with
was the one you married.
in sex there has always been
an inequality in power
women have the pussy
men want the pussy
by pretending that women
aren't nearly as horny or interested in sex
women propagated an expensive courting ritual
by which a man sought a woman's affections
women want the old way
doors being held open
dinners and dates being paid for
but
to add the freedom to
do whatever they want
on top of that
the problem is this
if a guy can get the pussy for free,
why the hell would he pay for it
there has to be value added
into the proposition
for me that value comes
in the form of an intelligent and
interesting mind attached
to that pussy.
in the past
the demand for pussy
greatly exceeded the supply
of available pussy
that isn't true any more
most any guy
can go out most any night
and find an attractive female to sleep with
for a cost of a drink or two
and maybe an hour of
pretending to be interested
her random babble
promiscuity both among males and females
is in somewhat of a cultural crisis.
with 1 in 2 americans admitting that they
have cheated on their partner in the past
or that they are currently doing so
we are all obsessed with the idea
that our partners might cheat on us
this undermines the basic trust
required to have a relationship.
for the past fifty years
as a culture we have glorified
the passion and love that supposedly
flares up uncontrollably into a torrid affair.
yet women want to feel special
women want to feel unique
men don't get that luxury
we know, and are often reminded
that you could go out and find
a replacement in a hour
we are not special
you are not special
I am not special
human beings are not special
"we are the same decaying organic matter as everything else"
women get preferential treatment
in most things
this is sexist
women want to keep these sexist benefits
but remove the sexist disadvantages
I think
that women enjoying their
sexuality and acting
"like men"
is wonderful
it will bring about a revolution
in honesty in inter-sexual relations
men and women will fuck
because they both get pleasure out of it
not because a man bought her dinner
or
because if she don't put out on the third date
[or whatever the popular number of the week is]
the man wont keep seeing her.
and men will treat women
like they treat other men
which is badly
actually let me address this
differently
people treat each other badly
men wanting to get in women's pants
treat them better
that would effectively end.
overall the sexual revolution and women's liberation
have worked overwhelmingly in the favor of men
we can now fuck
who we want
when we want
as often as we want
and
no longer are we
stigmatized for it.
it used to be
if a man got exposed
cheating on his wife
he could lose his job
in the military
adultery is still a criminal offense
now it is common place
we hear that so and so
is having an affair
and think nothing of it
other than a
passing
[what a slimy bastard]
but in time even that will change
because as women explore their sexuality
and sexual freedom and acknowledge their desires
it validates the desires in men and
plays into the old excuse that men just can't help themselves
Women make villains of women
who sleep with other women's men
but
the way I see it
[and men do the same]
If you make a commitment
to someone, and they make the
same commitment to you
to be monogamous
if that commitment is broken
only the person who made the commitment
is at fault
if your boy/girl/otherfriend cheats on you
the other person hasn't done
anything wrong
they didn't make any commitments to you
your boy/girl/otherfriend did however
and as much as people say
"they didn't mean to do it"
or
"it didn't mean anything"
they are lying
was it an accident?
did they trip on a phone cord and "Whoops" they got fucked?
what didn't mean anything?
obviously the commitment to monogamy
is what didn't mean anything,
if they so easily jumped into bed with someone else
men want sex
we are trained that
we do not have to control our desires
the responsibility for a man
not cheating on his wife,
is left to all the women of the world
not to sleep with him because
he is "spoken for"
that is fucked up daisy
and my question is
is teaching our women
to act the same way
really what we need?
