and finally

[plural]

before you all
revolt from my
incessant stream of
spam

I come forward
with open hands
and
ask you for advice

quite frankly
I have doubts
as to whether
this is even advice
I have a right to ask for
but
regardless
I shall anyway

[alternate post title]
[can the shrew be tamed?]

My brother
the unfortunate
fellow
married
and
foolishly
brought two
children into
an most unhappy
marriage

[one of those]
[have a kid to]
[improve the marriage]
[blunders]

and
to be fair
the first child was on
the way when things
went south

My brother
would be by
most any standards
an
asshole
or if you wished to
be kind
simply a jerk

this must be
clear so that
you may fully understand
the depth of this
situation

he is a generally
unpleasant and unhappy
fellow in the best of times
always has been

severe type A personality
[oldest child complex]

so
you must understand
when I say
that his wife
is simply the
most excruciating wench
I have ever encountered

I have never
met anyone so
permanently focused
and delighting in
the negative aspects
of anyone she meets

her preferred choice
of social interaction
is to gossip behind
peoples back.

I have
little patience for
it all but
that is irrelevant

until now
my basic theorems
have applied

I smile and nod
and perform all the
rituals of common decency

but
I fear I have
reached my limit

Two events
which I was involved
only in the periphery
but heard the more
intimate details of
tonight
have pushed me
to this pinnacle of
unrest

the other night
the sister-in-law
in question
approached both
myself and amber
and stressed
that she expected us
to come to her first
and resolve any differences
we might have with her
directly and without involving
other parties.

while
I appreciate the
concept of the position
and generally hold
such as usual practice

what made this
unbearable for me
was that she
had delivered this
speech immediately after
leading a prolonged
session in which
she proceeded to bad
mouth my mother to
other relatives for
roughly two hours

I admit that
I am by nature
defense of those
I care for
and
for all her fault
perhaps because of them
I do love my mother

that is not the issue here
nor is the quite likelihood
most of the faults
she attributed to my
mother are in fact
present.

however my objection
lies in the fact
that she attempts to
play the victim when
people get angry at
her for her venomous ways

Let me be clear here
as I have been clear with
her

I bear only the
secrets I choose
and even those
are shared
with amber
who
at her discretion
may decide to act
upon that information

[only perhaps in]
[the most severe cases]
[would I intervene with]
[her choice of response]

I will not accept
someone being angry
at me because I relayed
the fact that they were
back stabbing someone
to that person

I believe wholeheartedly
in calculated cruelty

[as distinguished from]
[casual cruelty]
[as discussed in my]
[prior posts]

but I strongly believe
in delivering that
crooked dagger
directly to
the person in question
and look in their
eyes while driving it
deep into their hearts
with a smile.

the second
incident
was her clear
statement that
she intends to
divorce my brother
and
the second hand
statement

[from what I]
[consider a reliable]
[first hand witness]

that she said
verbatim

"I intend to divorce him
and want to know how
much money I will get"

however much
I may
dislike
perhaps even
despise my brother
for his various
acts of careless cruelty
over the years

my defensive
buttons have been
pushed
and quite frankly
I am done with her

and
regardless of my
opinion of my brother
my heart
will be still and cold
before I allow her
to take with her
when she leaves

[not if, but when]

a single undeserved penny

[i.e. more than]
[an equal share]
[of my brothers marital assets]

or my niece and nephew

now
perhaps
this post tells
more about the
flaws in my own
character than hers
I will leave that
decision to you

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