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that doesn't mean I want someone to change me
rather someone who will insist on and assist me in my future growth

someone who says "you are fabulous and I love you but keep working on it and then maybe, you'll be worth it"


I see it sort of this way, but more "you are fabulous, and I love you, but you can do better. push yourself, you'll see. you're worth that effort."

Otherwise it seems to me to be more striving for the other person's approval than anything else. That's never a healthy situation to be in.