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Mar. 21st, 2003 12:23 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
pluralA brief clarification in response to several of the comments made:
Lest I have given the wrong impression in my last post.
Marriage is absolutely not entirely about sex
However a marriage without sex, passion and other forms of physical intimacy is hardly a marriage
When I was sixteen, I was sneaking into a friends house late one evening, as we crept through the living room, we discovered his parents, half naked and making out like a pair of, well sixteen year olds, my friend was mortified at the sight, but to me it was different. When I have been married twenty years as they had, I want, need and will insist upon that level of passion, interest and love, I can not see accepting less, when I know such is possible.
I was lucky enough in my youth to find such a woman, to love her and more importantly for her to love me, I asked her to marry me after a relatively brief courtship, and she accepted. Unfortunately a short time later, she was taken from me in a boating accident.
For many years, I wandered from brief relationship to brief relationship, for the most part I would be so bored with a woman after a month or so that I lacked even the desire to fuck her. I thought on this and was worried, I could not settle for less than I had seen, but to that point had found nothing else which could even imitate it poorly, was I destined to be without such? Had I been given my chance at such love and had it taken from me?
Then a few years back, I dated a girl, for nearly three years we dated, and everyday we made love. After three years, I was still full of the same passion, lust and need for her that I felt on our first date, when I came home I wanted nothing more than to take her in my arms and devour her.
While that relationship did not last for a variety of reasons, the lesson I learned and more importantly the hope that it provides will remain with me always. I will never accept a passionless marriage, I insist upon passion whether physical, emotional or intellectual, I refuse to accept less than the most it can be.
Lest I have given the wrong impression in my last post.
Marriage is absolutely not entirely about sex
However a marriage without sex, passion and other forms of physical intimacy is hardly a marriage
When I was sixteen, I was sneaking into a friends house late one evening, as we crept through the living room, we discovered his parents, half naked and making out like a pair of, well sixteen year olds, my friend was mortified at the sight, but to me it was different. When I have been married twenty years as they had, I want, need and will insist upon that level of passion, interest and love, I can not see accepting less, when I know such is possible.
I was lucky enough in my youth to find such a woman, to love her and more importantly for her to love me, I asked her to marry me after a relatively brief courtship, and she accepted. Unfortunately a short time later, she was taken from me in a boating accident.
For many years, I wandered from brief relationship to brief relationship, for the most part I would be so bored with a woman after a month or so that I lacked even the desire to fuck her. I thought on this and was worried, I could not settle for less than I had seen, but to that point had found nothing else which could even imitate it poorly, was I destined to be without such? Had I been given my chance at such love and had it taken from me?
Then a few years back, I dated a girl, for nearly three years we dated, and everyday we made love. After three years, I was still full of the same passion, lust and need for her that I felt on our first date, when I came home I wanted nothing more than to take her in my arms and devour her.
While that relationship did not last for a variety of reasons, the lesson I learned and more importantly the hope that it provides will remain with me always. I will never accept a passionless marriage, I insist upon passion whether physical, emotional or intellectual, I refuse to accept less than the most it can be.
