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An ode to monogamy ... or ... a lullaby for marriage
In response to a post
and series of comments
begun by mfluder
in this post discussing infidelity
The odds are not
good
which is why
more than half
of all marriages
in the US fail
in the first three years
Although
infidelity isn't
the only culprit
between
an inbred selfishness
and a belief that
we have a right to it
and our insistence
in clinging to the
misguided concept of
the nuclear family
which by default
forces us to search
for that one person
who can meet all of our needs
in life
no one can meet
all of anyones needs
that's why we
have
and need
friends in addition to
our significant others
but
we still expect
to find that
perfect person.
holding each other
not to mention
ourselves up to
compare against
this idea
only frustrates us
as
neither our
partners nor
ourselves are
able to live up to
this ideal
Marriage
in the USA
is polluted by
government sanction
marriage is
either a legal contract
or
union between
a man and a woman
[homosexuals bear with me]
[for a moment as I will get to you]
to try to enforce
both is folly.
Government has
no authority
nor business
governing interpersonal
relationships
To tell someone
that they cannot
grant someone
certain legal rights
because of gender
is simply discriminatory,
and unethical.
Marriage in my belief
is a lifestyle choice
and for many people
a religious matter
Our government
is founded
on the principle of
separation of church
and for the state
to sanction marriage
of a religious sort
violates this separation.
Marriage is
an act
between two people
[traditionally a man and a woman]
and [traditionally]
their deity.
Personally
I feel that
if two men or
two women wish to
[or three men and]
[five women]
get married
that's between them
and
whatever deity
[or lack there of]
they worship.
However
in this country
there is also the aspect
of a legal/social contract
which the government
takes part in enforcing.
this should be separated.
Let whomever marry
whomever they want
and call that Marriage
and
ignore any legal
aspects of it.
consider it
simply a
religous cerimony
as one would
a baptism
Why set a specific
list of contractual
right, obligations and
compensation for such a
union.
I would like
to change the concept
name to be
referred to as
a
domestic partnership
this change
albeit primarily semantic
removes the religious aspect
and concentrates simply
on the fact that
you have
people who
form together to
create a corporation
dedicated to providing
both for the wellbeing and
support of its members
but also perhaps for the raising
and governance of
children.
Domestic partnerships
should not have specific laws
but governed by standard
contractual law.
We already have in place
laws and methods for
providing child support
for unwed mothers
so that aspect
is irrelevant.
You can give anyone
power of attorney
which allows them
to make any action
or decision on your behalf
[depending on]
[how much authority]
[you grant them anyway]
I think that
people should be
able to create
domestic partnership
agreements
set the terms and
conditions however they
see fit.
The only restriction
I would put into place
is that said individuals
must live share the
same primary residence
[children would]
[be excluded from]
[this restriction]
Personally
I do not care
whom you give
these rights too
I do not think
it is the governments right
to determine who you
grant liberties too
nor who you sign contracts
with.
If you want to
enter such a contract
with someone of the
same sex or
a dozen people
of the same sex
or of the opposite
for that matter.
legally that shouldn't
matter in the least.
morally well
one mans immorality
is another mans
moral obligation
[to rape the]
[words of another.]
Government has
no obligation nor
authority to regulate
morality but inherently
morals are based from
religion and
by sanctioning
one set of morals
they sanction one
religion at the
exclusion of
others.
another rusty nickel
[from me]
[for no real]
[good reason]
and series of comments
begun by mfluder
in this post discussing infidelity
The odds are not
good
which is why
more than half
of all marriages
in the US fail
in the first three years
Although
infidelity isn't
the only culprit
between
an inbred selfishness
and a belief that
we have a right to it
and our insistence
in clinging to the
misguided concept of
the nuclear family
which by default
forces us to search
for that one person
who can meet all of our needs
in life
no one can meet
all of anyones needs
that's why we
have
and need
friends in addition to
our significant others
but
we still expect
to find that
perfect person.
holding each other
not to mention
ourselves up to
compare against
this idea
only frustrates us
as
neither our
partners nor
ourselves are
able to live up to
this ideal
Marriage
in the USA
is polluted by
government sanction
marriage is
either a legal contract
or
union between
a man and a woman
[homosexuals bear with me]
[for a moment as I will get to you]
to try to enforce
both is folly.
Government has
no authority
nor business
governing interpersonal
relationships
To tell someone
that they cannot
grant someone
certain legal rights
because of gender
is simply discriminatory,
and unethical.
Marriage in my belief
is a lifestyle choice
and for many people
a religious matter
Our government
is founded
on the principle of
separation of church
and for the state
to sanction marriage
of a religious sort
violates this separation.
Marriage is
an act
between two people
[traditionally a man and a woman]
and [traditionally]
their deity.
Personally
I feel that
if two men or
two women wish to
[or three men and]
[five women]
get married
that's between them
and
whatever deity
[or lack there of]
they worship.
However
in this country
there is also the aspect
of a legal/social contract
which the government
takes part in enforcing.
this should be separated.
Let whomever marry
whomever they want
and call that Marriage
and
ignore any legal
aspects of it.
consider it
simply a
religous cerimony
as one would
a baptism
Why set a specific
list of contractual
right, obligations and
compensation for such a
union.
I would like
to change the concept
name to be
referred to as
a
domestic partnership
this change
albeit primarily semantic
removes the religious aspect
and concentrates simply
on the fact that
you have
people who
form together to
create a corporation
dedicated to providing
both for the wellbeing and
support of its members
but also perhaps for the raising
and governance of
children.
Domestic partnerships
should not have specific laws
but governed by standard
contractual law.
We already have in place
laws and methods for
providing child support
for unwed mothers
so that aspect
is irrelevant.
You can give anyone
power of attorney
which allows them
to make any action
or decision on your behalf
[depending on]
[how much authority]
[you grant them anyway]
I think that
people should be
able to create
domestic partnership
agreements
set the terms and
conditions however they
see fit.
The only restriction
I would put into place
is that said individuals
must live share the
same primary residence
[children would]
[be excluded from]
[this restriction]
Personally
I do not care
whom you give
these rights too
I do not think
it is the governments right
to determine who you
grant liberties too
nor who you sign contracts
with.
If you want to
enter such a contract
with someone of the
same sex or
a dozen people
of the same sex
or of the opposite
for that matter.
legally that shouldn't
matter in the least.
morally well
one mans immorality
is another mans
moral obligation
[to rape the]
[words of another.]
Government has
no obligation nor
authority to regulate
morality but inherently
morals are based from
religion and
by sanctioning
one set of morals
they sanction one
religion at the
exclusion of
others.
another rusty nickel
[from me]
[for no real]
[good reason]
Such...
always
I am glad you
appreciated them
and
allow me to apologize
in advance
for
while I may not
have
yet
[which I do find unlikely]
I am sure
to offend you
in the near
future
so
when that moment arrives
I
beg your parden
with regards